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The Culture that has been here all the time

When I was introduced to BDSM relationships, I realized they had existed probably for all of human history. Religion and Western Culture distort this and BDSM itself greatly, and if anything, an incredible hypocrisy is always present. Using codes and euphemisms, even denial can mask the fact that many people thrive within this often unrecognized subculture. For example, my wife had all the earmarks of a pleasure slave and was generally devoted and submissive to me. In times of marital friction, I often heard the words from a counselor, "She just wants you to love her." "Love her," I thought I was, and now I know without a doubt I need to be a Dominant, not some preconceived idea that we are to live as equals: we are not only one can be a Dom and one a sub at a time, but, it is perfectly fine if switching is desired at least now and then.
2 years ago. Monday, February 5, 2024 at 12:36 PM

Dear Friends,

This post is very personal. For more than three years I have been the only caregiver for my wife with Alzheimer's in a town I accidentally wound up living in. I know virtually no one here and with no ability to have a social life that has not changed in two years in PA. I sought a companion online and was scammed heavily. Eventually, I was taken under the wings of a Dominatrix who has taught me about being a Master. Seems my wife of 39 years was a perfect Sub.  I unknowingly a very good Dom unaware that is what the relationship was precisely. I took care of us she took care of me and we were entirely monogamous. Then she got seriously ill and my whole life is under revision.

She has a very limited ability to be what she once was and I refuse to give her up. I will take care of her for as long as possible. The cost? Not the money I squandered the money. The loss of her interactions, help, her being my lover, and my connection to any kind of social life. I can't afford to have her watched and she can't be left alone; family was the first group of people to abandon us. So what am I looking for; and hoping for?

First I am not looking for a nurse for her or a replacement for her. I am looking for a woman sub who can be these in this order: Friend, Helper, Companion, and if it goes well affectionate lover. All that will be a process that takes time (that is all I have now). If the sub becomes all that for me? I will cherish her, care for her, and LOVE her. 

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