Hello Friends,
Many of you know me as a 76-year-old newbie to BDSM who can act like a 16-year-old schoolboy at times. I inadvertently seemed to have stepped on some toes and mashed my toes, too. First, my Dominatrix (Teacher, Coach, and business partner but not my Misstress) is a fantastic person and has kept me out of trouble when I listen to her. I have come to the conclusion she is my BDSM guardian as well. Meeting friends isn't hard, but connecting to a submissive woman (in my case) is not so easy. On my own, things have not gone well. In private messaging, I can elaborate, but I am not writing today to create a stir of any kind. There are many online information sources to navigate, but "hook-up" sites are the most treacherous.
Even if I abandon a search for an intimate friend, there is deception, trickery, and fraud when seeking a platonic friendship. My teacher/coach warned me constantly, but finally, I got it. Even a young female neighbor I spoke to warned me when I asked about meeting people online. She may be overly dramatic but when I asked her, "How many people will I meet online searching for a friend who are to be trusted?" She replied, "None of them." So, since moving here a year and a half ago, I still exist like a stranger in a strange land: How can I make potential friends?
The old-fashioned ways seem best: Have someone you trust to introduce you. Someday, I may be able to engage in a club, an activity, or the senior center and socialize. I must continue my caregiving and be patient now with the advice I give to myself, too.
