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The Culture that has been here all the time

When I was introduced to BDSM relationships, I realized they had existed probably for all of human history. Religion and Western Culture distort this and BDSM itself greatly, and if anything, an incredible hypocrisy is always present. Using codes and euphemisms, even denial can mask the fact that many people thrive within this often unrecognized subculture. For example, my wife had all the earmarks of a pleasure slave and was generally devoted and submissive to me. In times of marital friction, I often heard the words from a counselor, "She just wants you to love her." "Love her," I thought I was, and now I know without a doubt I need to be a Dominant, not some preconceived idea that we are to live as equals: we are not only one can be a Dom and one a sub at a time, but, it is perfectly fine if switching is desired at least now and then.
1 year ago. Tuesday, May 21, 2024 at 9:30 AM

Hello Friends,

To function reasonably well, I must continually balance my temperamental artistic side with my logical scientific side in equilibrium. I rely on CBT:

"Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is a treatment that aims to break down negative thought patterns and improve feelings by helping people deal with current problems. CBT theory suggests that thoughts, emotions, body sensations, and behavior are all connected, and that what people think and do affects how they feel. CBT can help people get to a point where they can achieve this on their own and tackle problems without the help of a therapist."  (from quick Google Search)
 

Just like a cardiologist prescribes medications and physical activity to improve a heart condition, CBT with activities and medications can be pretty successful. Like all things applying to humans, results can be a statistical percentage of 50% or 80% improvement. The underlying factor may easily quantified as the ability and amount of socialization involved for success.

A factor hard to gauge is just how positive a relationship is with a sexual partner. The style suits both lovers and the frequency and degree of the engagements: Make or break the ability to live in harmony and with so many things in life a balance between."Too Little or Too Much"

To paraphrase Abraham Lincoln, you can help some people sometimes and help some people all the time, but you can not help all people all the time.


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