The BDSM checklist is extensive, and when the percentage of what you are leaning toward, is a good beginning. Unfortunately, it can pressure newbies and the curious to feel compelled to plunge into the "life" when they rather ease their way in. So there can be interested men and women turned away at the gate. The liars and scammers are not so fussy. It is unfortunate that opportunists and manipulators sneak in and become pretenders.
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The best way to enter is with ears and eyes wide open and having researched the lifestyle. The Cage has many helpful resources, but knowledgeable and careful interaction within candid conversations would be significantly beneficial to this end.
This is my honest statement:
Once introduced to BDSM I read and observed the popular websites and acquired a starting point. I discovered I had Kinky tendencies all along and so did my wife. I cannot say I was a natural Dom but my wife for certain was (before her ADA) a natural sub.
I had a brief BDSM lover that added immensely to my knowldge and I even got to practice some of the life style.
My wife's ADA (i.e. Bruce Willis) is advanced, no interest in the sexual intimacy we once had. She can behave more like a toddler - playing with dolls especially.
I have had many a paid aide when I could afford them, so women visiting us is normal for her - irrelevent why they are here.
So if I was given the chance to continue my education in The Life style I would continue slowly - it is stalled at this time.
I have exhausted all my attempts to get caregiving help, but I will continue caring for my wife of forty years at the level of a nurse for as long as I can. If I were to acquire a BDSM companion, I would not expect her to do my caregiving job directly. She can help with running the home and enable me to seek the healthcare I now have postponed because I can't take my wife to my appointments.
As truthful as I can be Jim (Andron)
