Andron(neither male)

The Culture that has been here all the time

When I was introduced to BDSM relationships, I realized they had existed probably for all of human history. Religion and Western Culture distort this and BDSM itself greatly, and if anything, an incredible hypocrisy is always present. Using codes and euphemisms, even denial can mask the fact that many people thrive within this often unrecognized subculture. For example, my wife had all the earmarks of a pleasure slave and was generally devoted and submissive to me. In times of marital friction, I often heard the words from a counselor, "She just wants you to love her." "Love her," I thought I was, and now I know without a doubt I need to be a Dominant, not some preconceived idea that we are to live as equals: we are not only one can be a Dom and one a sub at a time, but, it is perfectly fine if switching is desired at least now and then.

I am Surprised

1 year ago. Saturday, December 28, 2024 at 9:11 AM

I am surprised that a crazy "do-gooder" - like a cousin who admonished me, calling me lazy and saying that I should get off my ass as a caregiver and help myself hasn't appeared at my front door to help us. Or, an altruistic "bleeding heart" hasn't rang my doorbell. No, I have tried every avenue to acquire caregiver help that I have learned about (from counselors and share groups), but I only continue with the "status quo."

I have been expressing our needs to healthcare people and even social workers in the hospital the last time I brought my wife there. The remnants of our two small retirement funds are insufficient to pay for help but disqualify us from government help.

I say, "Humans and dogs can get used to anything," so I have adapted to this depressing life. No, I haven't given up. I always have an action plan in the works, although 99% of these plans fall short.

I'm just venting today.

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The Culture that has been here all the time

I am Surprised

Andron(neither male)