Organized Chaos

She's not going to pursue you.

She's not going to sit there and prove her worth to you with every day that passes.

She's not going to try and manipulate you to believe that she's better than everybody else.

Because she already knows she is.

She knows she's the best thing that will ever come into your life.

She knows she's not perfect but ....

She knows what she's been through. She has healed numerous times from the trauma that nobody apologized for, and she finally knows how valuable her life truly is.

If you get a chance to be a part of her life, you should consider it a blessing.

If she allows you to see parts of her that she hides away from the outside world ... you need to consider this a blessing as well.

If she wants you to be a part of her life, then it's for a specific reason.

She doesn't waste her time on temporary conversations anymore.

She has finally come to the conclusion that her time is precious, so she's not going to waste it on someone who doesn't realize she is too.

~ Cody Bret

THIS IS 100% ME!

For the last 5 years, I have grown so much.

I no longer make excuses for people's bad behaviour, nor do I tolerate it.

I no longer entertain people or conversations that don't serve me.

I don't beg anyone to stay in my life, and I don't chase anyone.

So, you want to go? I wish you well. 

Getting divorced was probably the best thing that happened to me. It forced me to grow, mature, and work on my personal development. I let others push my boundaries because I didn't like the feeling when people were mad at me. I'm also forever the optimist, so I let people have more chances than they deserved.

I have learned to move in silence, stay in my own lane, and focus on the things I can control. The biggest thing I've learned is to not try and change people's perception of me. You want to think the worst of me or something untrue, that's on you. I no longer waste my breath trying to correct people.

The biggest thing I have learned is how to make myself happy instead of relying on others. I learned to love myself. Most of all, I learned my worth!!

More importantly, I've learned not to let others' opinions affect my value!!

My evil minions and I all have matching "Let Them" rings that came with this poem.  We try to embrace this thinking.

This popped up on my feed today so I figured it was the universe telling me to share. 

If they want to choose something or someone over you, LET THEM.

If they want to go weeks without talking to you, LET THEM.

If they are okay with never seeing you, LET THEM.

If they are okay with always putting themselves first, LET THEM.

If they are showing you who they are and not what you perceived them to be, LET THEM.

If they want to follow the crowd, LET THEM.

If they want to judge or misunderstand you, LET THEM.

If they act like they can live without you, LET THEM.

If they want to walk out of your life and leave,
hold the door open, AND LET THEM.

Let them lose you.
You were never theirs, because you were always your own.
So let them.

Let them show you who they truly are, not tell you.
Let them prove how worthy they are of your time.
Let them make the necessary steps to be a part of your life.
Let them earn your forgiveness.
Let them call you to talk about ordinary things.

Let them take you out on a Thursday.
Let them talk about anything and everything just because it’s you they are talking to.

Let them have a safe place in you.
Let them see the heart in you that didn’t harden.

Let them love you. 

~ Cassie Phillips

You're attached to people who have been on and off with you for an extended period of time. 

You pay attention to people who only make time for you when it's convenient for them. 

You're too caring to people who could care less about you.

You give attention to people who take you for granted and put you on the back burner because they think no matter what they do, you will never leave. 

Do me a favor and accept people for who they are, & leave them where they belong.

~ Cody Bret

Sometimes I think about the different characters I play in everybody’s story.
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I’m a terrible person in some people's narratives and a Godsend in others.
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And none of it has anything to do with the person I truly am.
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The lens that others view you through is coloured by their upbringing, beliefs, and individual experiences.
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Some people see your bright personality as endearing and others see it as annoying.
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Some people think you’re weak and emotional and others feel safe to be themselves around you.
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Some people think you’re rude and selfish and others respect the way you stand up for yourself.
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Some people admire the way you take pride in the way you look and others think you’re conceited.
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And none of it has to do with who you truly are as a person.
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What you have to understand is that you have no authority over how people view you so never try to control the way others see you because the only thing that truly matters when the dust settles down at the end of the day is what you genuinely see in yourself.

~Cody Bret

After Friday and Monday off, my clinic is a fekking dumpster fire!

I will pull off miracles tomorrow but.....

I'm done with adults and adulting for today!

If you need me, I'll be in my fort watching cartoons and eating cookies!

@Creidsinn 

Yours is Bruce Almighty 

Next challenge:

Do I look like a cat to you, boy? Am I jumpin' around all nimbly bimbly from tree to tree?

THANK YOU SO MUCH! 

Thank you to everyone that has wished me a happy birthday today!! You have made me feel super special! ?

Thank you to those that gave me a show and sent pictures.... Was so unexpected? haha

You guys sure know how to make a girl feel special!!?

Of all the
things I own,
my worth is my
favorite possession.

                         ~Melodie Godfred

Today I asked my body what she needed,
Which is a big deal
Considering my journey of
Not Really Asking That Much.

I thought she might need more water.
Or protein.
Or greens.
Or yoga.
Or supplements.
Or movement.

But as I stood in the shower
Reflecting on her stretch marks
Her roundness where I would like flatness,
Her softness where I would like firmness,
All those conditioned wishes
That form a bundle of
Never-Quite-Right-Ness,
She whispered very gently:

Could you just love me like this?

                          ~Hollie Holden

Just a gentle reminder to always remember your worth. Never let anyone make you feel that you don't have value! Remember there is no one in the world like you! You are unique! You are special! You matter!

We all have things about ourselves that we would like to change, but remember all those little imperfections make up  wonderful you. Every scar, stretch mark, lump, bump, they are all battles you won, things you have conquered, and times you showed life you were stronger! 

Though you may not think it's perfect, cherish the skin you're in. Remember your worth. Stand tall and hold your head up high. 

Remember, you have a 100% track record of beating everything life has thrown at you so far. You are a warrior! 

Lastly, I'm going to ask you this....if you look in the mirror....are the things you say kind? Would you feel comfortable saying them to someone else about them? If the answer to either is no, you may need to re-evaluate your self talk because you are Amazing! 

Put that shit down! It's heavy!

Imagine how much lighter you will feel if you stop carrying around all that negative self talk! Ask yourself, is this really something I think about myself? Or is this something someone/society told me about myself?

We weren't born hating our bodies and ourselves. Think back to when you were a kid, learning new skills, and marveling in all the amazing things your body could do! Before you let the world decide who you are and de-value you.

Remember that kick ass kid inside you and embrace them! That is still you! You are still in there. Let their voice speak to you with all their excitement at what your body can do and who you truly are!!

Have a fantastic day everyone! Be gentle with yourself, you are a work in progress, not a final edition.

Sooooo, I've been here on and off for 5 years now and have participated in many challenges. My favourite to date, was the dress shirt challenge. 

That's actually where my display picture comes from. (It's also the only picture of myself I've ever posted.) It was about 2 years into my stay here when the challenge was issued. I don't have the full original picture anymore, but I will post the display one below. 

I didn't own a dress shirt.....how was I going to participate? Green, Bun, and other ladies were posting fabulous pics in their dress shirts, I wanted to, too! 

So I dug deep and found one of my Dad's old firefighter dress blues and struggled that bad boy on. CLEARLY, he does not have the chest I have as that one button is holding that shirt together on a hope and a prayer!!

THE CHALLENGE: Post a picture in a dress shirt that makes YOU feel sexy! It can be seductively draped open, one or all buttons closed, in just a dress shirt..... You decide. 

The object is not to flash nudity all over Cage but to create a sexy photo that makes YOU feel sexy and good about YOURSELF.

PLEASE REMEMBER this is an adult site, so let's all be adults and keep the comments positive and respectful.

Those who know me know I'm a big advocate for loving yourself and the skin you're in. You don't have to have the "perfect body" by today's standards to look and feel sexy! 

EVERYONE can participate! Big or small, black, white, purple, pink, man, woman, other, scars, birthmarks, etc. It is truly about what  makes YOU feel sexy, so please join in.  Don't worry about others' opinions!!!

I want to see your creativity!! If you're not premium, post a picture on your profile and let us know!!

(Ps. Don't mind the paint specs on it, haha. we used them for paint shirts after he retired. I did the damn challenge, ok?! Don't judge me!)