Hey everyone, I've gotten a few of the same questions, so I'm just gonna give some insight here?
I know....f*** this guy, right?
1. I'm confused by your blog. You say you don't want a relationship but you're looking for someone to relocate?
Answer: I only speak on the relationship options that are directly presented to me. There are a lot of women looking for a man as a come up or just use him for money. To be clear, I am not a sugar daddy, bull, cuckold, or penpal. With regard to a relationship, I'm willing to put in the same amount of time and effort that I receive.
It may seem confusing because my answer doesn't fit a set definition in a set time/place where I give a blanket expectation to every person I meet. I'm looking to be with someone after finding the right balance between life, work, interests, goals, and compatibility. Sometimes that formula may say it's best for us to be casual, friends, live together, move to the same city for one or both of our careers. I prefer organic relationships to standard suicide run situationships (yeah I made that up, patented too).
2. How dominant are you?
Answer: If I had to give a scale of 1 to 10. I would say a solid 7 with the potential to be your personal 10. There is a lot of work needed from both sides in order to fully support the best performance, stamina, and leadership attributes of a dom. I could show up and be strict, fit, hung, considerate, and perfect dom. But it's useless with a sub who chooses to not listen, party every night, and act in a disrespectful or destructive manner that does nothing for the progress of the relationship.
If our goals and personalities align, I will learn your fantasies so that the rewards are better. I'll learn your fears and physical limits so that punishments are more effective. I believe in grabbing and spanking my sub in a playful manner or put her in a spreader bar if she has bad posture or speaks out of turn. I also believe in caning my sub's feet and repeatedly denying orgasms, or doing physical training to exhaustion if she fails a task or slacks off. I do have a sadist side, that only comes out after we build a connection and talk about house rules, limits, scene play out, safe words, and aftercare (if needed.) After that, I can turn up the heat until you have to walk out of the kitchen. Come visit. Try me.
3. Are you monogamous?
Answer: 90 percent Yes. 10 percent open to talking about what setup works best for us.
4. How do finances work when you're with a sub?
Answer: I'm looking for a partner, not a dependent. If we live apart, we handle our own bills. If we live together, everything is 50/50.
5. What are your thoughts/experiences with CNC?
Answer: My thoughts: Consensual non-consent and branch activities like it is a pretty broad range of tastes and levels of intensity. I enjoy it when it's done right. I had one sub who liked to roll dice to see what kind of dom/sub/CNC/punishment stuff we would do. She liked to gamble and I like to sort of chance and variety it brings.
I have had another sub who liked to have a small board sign in my house with green on one side and red on the other. Green means anything goes. Red means CNC is off. At any time, my sub is allowed to change the board. This ensures feedback and is a communication anchor that will let me know when my sub may be on her cycle, is physically hurt, needs another kind of attention, or is just not feeling CNC. Of course, we have agreed that I make final decisions but I prefer a dynamic with feedback, communication, and reliability. So far, when talking about ease of transition between scenes, phases, and levels of intensity, this set up has worked best.
6. Red flag time. Do you have any kids? When were you last tested for STDs? Do you have a criminal record or have you had a DUI?
- Yes. Being fair: I have been deployed most of my life. I live on my own at this time. Yes, I try to be an involved parent.
- April 9th 2020. I get tested monthly.
- Clean background. Ask then look me up.