What I encounter on a daily basis with my poly triad relationship.
Nasty glances.
friends and family going no contact.
people thinking that just because I am dating two people means I want to date them as well.
Work professionals like nurses,, doctors etc. Making weird seemingly joking banter about joining our relationship.
Random strangers coming up and saying gross things like we are brave to be out in public.
Hateful comments ranging from we are sinners,, to we should just unalive ourselves.
That we are cheaters.
How dare I date two people when others out there are struggling as single people.
The list goes on, and on.
In an increasingly interconnected world, love takes many forms. Yet poly relationships often face scrutiny that other types of relationships do not. As someone who embraces this lifestyle I’ve experienced firsthand the judgment and misunderstanding that can come from society. Being in love with two people shouldn’t warrant raised eyebrows or disdain. Instead it should be celebrated as just another expression of human connection.
The concept of polyamory engaging in multiple consensual romantic relationships has been around for ages, yet many still struggle to grasp it. Society often relegates romantic relationships to a binary framework of monogamy, which can stigmatize those who venture beyond it. I've experienced the discomfort of being judged simply for my choices in love more times than I can count. The sideways glances, the hurtful comments, and the outright dismissal of my feelings can be exhausting.
Mostly from close friends and family.
What’s perplexing is how these reactions often stem from a lack of understanding rather than genuine concerns. People may view polyamory through a lens clouded by traditional values. For them the idea of loving more than one person at a time seems inherently flawed, threatening, or even morally suspect. This misunderstanding can lead to a range of negative experiences, from social isolation like being blacklisted from friend groups to personal attacks that leave a lasting emotional impact.
The hypocrisy in our society is astounding.
It’s disheartening to see how many people go no contact simply because they cannot accept my lifestyle. One would think that love in all its forms would be universally recognized and respected. Instead I find myself defending the legitimacy of my relationships to friends and family who dismiss my happiness in favor of their misconceptions.
I am no less committed to my partners, nor do I love them any less simply because my affection is shared.
Polyamory isn't just about romantic relationships. it involves deep emotional connections built on trust, communication, and respect. In many ways it requires a higher degree of emotional intelligence and honesty to navigate these relationships. Setting healthy boundaries and practicing open communication are paramount to preventing misunderstandings and jealousy. However, when society refuses to acknowledge this complexity, it creates an environment ripe for judgment.
It’s vital for those within or interested in polyamorous relationships to build a strong support system. This network can provide not only validation but also the tools necessary to handle external negativity. Engaging with others who share similar experiences fosters a sense of community and belonging, helping to combat the loneliness that can come from feeling misunderstood.
Strong support system does not mean adding to our relationship. This is not an invitation.
Education is key to rejecting stigma. By engaging in frank discussions about polyamory, individuals can challenge preconceived notions and redefine what love and commitment mean. Sharing stories, reading literature about polyamorous experiences, and attending workshops/classes can open minds and promote acceptance.
Stop living in a box and open your mind to broader horizons.
While it can be disheartening facing the ire of those unwilling to understand. My relationships are valid, and they bring immense joy to my life. Love, after all, should not be limited. It is abundant and should thrive in whatever form it takes. This does not mean poly relationships are for everyone and that is acceptable. However, What we need is compassion and open hearts not judgment. So to those judging me from the outside.
I am happy, I am fulfilled, and I am not going anywhere.
