Do your non kink interests ever find their way into your kinky activities?
TLDR: YES!
Movies
Television Shows
Music
Books
Art
Crafts
Board Games
Fashion
Beauty Routines
And So Much More!
For many within the BDSM community the connection between personal hobbies and kinks often runs deeper than one might expect. While BDSM itself is a richly nuanced lifestyle it can be enhanced and enriched through the exploration of various interests outside of traditional BDSM practices. From art and music to board games and fashion, many of these hobbies can enhance the experiences we have within our kinky lives.
One notable overlap is the world of film and television. Certain genres and narratives resonate strongly with BDSM themes. Often giving insight into power dynamics, trust, and intimacy. For example, films that portray strong character relationships such as “Secretary”, "Pet", "Story Of O", or the “Fifty Shades” franchise, can open discussions about consent, boundaries, and exploration. Even cartoons can reflect these themes in humorous or exaggerated forms allowing us to explore aspects of kink in a more light hearted manner. Shows like “Adventure Time”, "Exploding Kittens", "Family Guy" or "Human Resources", hint at underlying themes of BDSM, often sparking dialogue about our own preferences and desires.
I know that movies and shows do not often depict BDSM in a correct or safe way. Regardless it does shine light on this world and allows people a place to start.
Music is another potent influence. Many within the BDSM community find inspiration in lyrics, beats, and the overall vibe of songs that resonate with their experiences or aspirations. From the industrial sounds of Nine Inch Nails to the sultry beats of artists like Lana Del Rey, specific genres can amplify the mood during play or set the tone for a scene. Playlists created for different activities bondage sessions, impact play, Sex, or even aftercare. Can transform the atmosphere making moments even more intimate.
Art plays a crucial role. Engaging with visual arts whether through creating or appreciating allows for personal expression of desires and fantasies. Many kinksters might find themselves gravitating toward works that depict themes of sensuality, power, or vulnerability. Creating a dialogue about their own experiences. This exploration can extend to ceramics, paintings, photography, and writing, encouraging connections between the viewer and the artists intention.
Beyond these expressive arts more hands on hobbies like woodworking and other crafts can also find their way into the BDSM lifestyle. Crafting your own toys or furniture can lead to a deeper appreciation of the implements and spaces we use during play. Knowing the effort and skill that went into making a paddle or a bondage chair can enhance feelings of connection and care in the BDSM dynamic.
Even everyday beauty routines can have a place in our kink lives. Fashion choices whether its donning latex, leather, or simply dressing in a style that makes one feel empowered can create a powerful mindset for entering a scene. Choosing specific outfits for a play date perhaps inspired by a favorite character from a show or movie, can elevate the experience and help in embodying a different persona or attitude.
Engaging in board games can serve as a light hearted way to bond with partners and fellow kinksters. Games that involve strategy, negotiation, or trust building can subtly mimic the dynamics found within BDSM. They may provide a playful safe space to explore communication and consent, elements that are foundational in BDSM relationships.
Creating your own game may also enrich your BDSM experience.
The rich tapestry of interests we engage in outside of our BDSM lifestyle can significantly enhance our experiences within the community. By exploring the intersections between hobbies and kink, we can foster deeper connections, express our true selves, and ultimately enrich our BDSM journeys. Whether its through music, films, art, or even fun board games, embracing these passions paves the way for a more fulfilling and nuanced lifestyle.
