Someone shared in one of my groups that they've been criticized for not being submissive enough because they ask a lot of questions, come across as assertive at times, and have control over certain parts of their life. They mentioned that it wasn't just Dominants who said this, but also other submissives.
SHAME ON ALL OF YOU!!!
I am a slave to both of my Masters. I belong to them, and their opinions are the only ones that hold true significance when it comes to me. I exercise control over the aspects of my life that they permit, and they trust me to make sound decisions within the framework of their rules and guidelines. In their absence, I strive to manage and care for myself to the best of my ability throughout the day.
My Masters have established strict rules for me to adhere to, one of which is that I must write, teach, and have a voice. They value the fact that I hold my own beliefs, that I am not weak, and that I can express them confidently. Whether it concerns BDSM, politics, religion, or the challenging and complex topics I am deeply passionate about, they encourage me to stand firm and be outspoken. My Masters actively support and empower me to make my voice heard.
I am passionate, loving, and caring, but I am also incredibly strong. Strong enough to stand up for myself and others, even in times when I wasn’t always able to do so. Strong enough to trust my Masters to take control, guiding and shaping me into a better person. For the first time in my life, I am also experiencing strength in a new and profound way.
Over the past years, I have grown significantly stronger in expressing:
No!!
No, I don’t like this!!
No, I do not want this!
No, I do not want to do this!
No, You do not have my consent!
No, You hurt me, don’t do it again!
No, I don’t want to be with you!!!
No, I do not desire to continue having any sort of relationship with you. Whether it is romantic or platonic.
You will respect my boundaries!
I will hold you accountable for your actions!!!
I will hold myself accountable!
This does not diminish my submission. It simply means I am not obedient to you. I belong to Calvin and Damon, and I will serve submissively to anyone they require of me, because I love them. In doing so, I fulfill my devotion to them.
Having strong convictions and the ability to make decisions in their absence does not diminish my role as a slave. It simply reflects my strength and capability, which do not undermine my submission.
Criticizing others for engaging in the same behavior reflects a judgmental, ignorant, and frankly disrespectful attitude. Such behavior reveals an inability to appreciate the strength and conviction of those strong minded submissives who demonstrate similar qualities.
If you criticize a strong submissive for not conforming to your idea of submission, it suggests one of two things: either you lack the strength or ability to effectively guide and control them as a Dominant, or, if you are another submissive casting judgment, it likely stems from jealousy. In either case it reveals a deeper insecurity. Whether it is the inability to inspire or command respect, or a reluctance to accept the individuality and strength of others within the dynamic. True strength in submission is not about blind obedience, but the confidence to assert ones values and beliefs while still honoring the role.
