Disclaimer: This writing was inspired by a piece that shamefully attacked the ABDL (Adult Baby/Diaper Lover) community. The author of that piece personally targeted kinksters who engage in ABDL practices, and their criticism has unfortunately backfired. In response, they now label everyone who disagrees with them as "entitled." With this piece, I aim to address the world of little space and adult diaper wearers, but the message is broader. It applies to anyone who practices any kink in public.
As someone who actively practices kink, specifically in the context of being in little space, I’ve often found that society tends to misunderstand or judge aspects of this lifestyle. One particular practice that has been heavily scrutinized recently is engaging in kink related activities in public spaces, particularly when it comes to things like changing adult diapers in family bathrooms. I want to address an important point: as long as you are being mindful of others and respecting the space and consent of those around you, there is absolutely nothing wrong with practicing your kink in public.
Let me be clear: consent is key. I believe there’s a fundamental distinction between publicly engaging in your kink in a way that respects those around you, and actively forcing others into your scene or making them feel uncomfortable. Practicing little space in public, for example, doesn’t mean I’m going out of my way to make others witness something they didn’t sign up for. If I’m using a family bathroom to change my adult diapers, it is because it is a private space designed for families or individuals who need a moment of privacy. If no children are present, and if there’s no one else around to witness it without their consent, then it is perfectly fine.
As a disabled individual, I have no issue with an ABDL person using the family stall. However, I do kindly ask that you be mindful of your time in there.
We live in a world where people are often quick to judge, especially when it comes to kinks that fall outside the societal norm. It is important to remember that everyone has the right to their own kinks and dynamics, as long as those practices are consensual. If you see someone engaging in a kink you don’t understand or that doesn’t align with your personal values, you have every right to look away, ignore it, or simply scroll past it on social media. The world is a big place, and we are all entitled to our own preferences and boundaries. That said, there is no need to publicly shame someone for their interests.
Take social media, for example. Many people in the kink community openly share their experiences, photos, or insights as a form of self expression. If someone chooses to post pictures related to their kink, whether it is adult diapers, little space, Primal play, Bondage, Rigging, or any other dynamic, that’s their prerogative. If you don’t care to see it or it doesn’t resonate with you, just keep scrolling. The beauty of the internet is that we have the choice to curate our own experiences. Instead of resorting to shaming or criticizing others, try exercising the simple power of ignoring what doesn’t align with your interests.
In the kink community, we should strive to support one another rather than tear each other down. Just as you are entitled to practice your kinks privately or publicly in the way that suits you, others are entitled to do the same. Everyone has their own dynamic, and just because it might look different from yours doesn’t mean it is wrong or worthy of public scorn.
In other words, "Mind Your Business Karen!"
It is vital to understand that shaming someone for their kink interests not only harms them, but it also undermines the very principles of mutual respect and acceptance that should be at the core of the kink community. Kindness, understanding, and respect are far more valuable than judgment and condemnation.
If we can embrace this ethos of respect. Respect for others' boundaries, their practices, and their right to express themselves freely. Then we can begin to create a space where all kinks are accepted without fear of shaming or ridicule. This doesn’t mean everyone must engage in the same practices, but it does mean that we should foster an environment where diverse expressions of sexuality and identity can exist without fear of negative judgment.
As long as you’re engaging in your kink in a respectful, consensual manner, there’s no harm in practicing it in public spaces. Whether that means using a family bathroom to change your adult diapers or engaging in little space in a way that doesn’t infringe on others. You are entitled to your dynamic and your practices, just as I am entitled to mine. Let’s remember that shaming others for what they find joy or comfort in does nothing but perpetuate negativity. Instead, let us focus on understanding, respect, and the freedom to express ourselves in a way that feels true to who we are.
Let’s remember the simple lesson many of us were taught as children: "If you don't have anything nice to say, it is best not to say anything at all."
