Disclaimer: Although they admitted to violating the rules before becoming owners, it doesn't change my view on this space or its potential leadership. The fact that the violation was laughed off when mentioned only reinforces my lack of trust in the current leadership that's taken charge.
I don't believe these individuals are bad people. Everyone makes mistakes, and that's completely understandable. However, even though they acknowledged violating the rules before becoming owners, it does leave me feeling uncertain about the current leadership. It will take a lot of effort and commitment to rebuild trust and show that this space is worth visiting again in the future.
Play spaces are supposed to be a refuge. A place where everyone can feel safe, respected, and supported. These spaces are built on trust, where the rules are in place to protect that sense of security for everyone involved. When someone violates those rules, it is not just a minor infraction. It is a betrayal of the trust that keeps the space safe.
Recently, I’ve found myself deeply disturbed by a situation that unfolded in one such space, especially given the events of the past few months. A space that should’ve been a safe haven for all has now been tainted by the actions of those in charge. As someone who values safety and respect, the fact that a new owner, someone who was supposed to restore trust, has publicly admitted to violating the very rules meant to protect that trust is not just unsettling, it is disgusting.
The idea of a leader openly talking about breaking the rules is beyond disappointing. It sends the message that the very foundation of safety and respect in this space is not taken seriously. If you can’t follow the rules yourself, how can anyone trust you to lead others in doing the same? It leaves me questioning the future of this space, especially when it is supposed to be a place where only safe and responsible people are allowed to thrive.
This isn’t just about a single mistake or a minor slip up. It’ is about leadership, accountability, and the integrity of a space that so many rely on. The fact that the rules were violated by those entrusted to maintain them speaks volumes about their commitment to the safety and wellbeing of everyone in that space. Frankly, it doesn’t inspire confidence in their ability to lead. How can we be sure this won’t happen again?
Safe spaces are only safe when we all respect the rules, from the newest member to the person at the top. Violating those rules isn’t a laughing matter. It is a serious breach that has lasting consequences. If the leadership in a space can’t uphold those rules, then it is time to rethink whether it is truly a place where we can all feel safe to be ourselves.
This is why I refuse to return to that space, now or in the future. I do not see change. I just see a different coat of paint.