A Response to the Attacks on a Trad-Wife Creator
Lately, my feed has been flooded with videos targeting a specific Trad-Wife content creator. She's a woman who openly shares her life as a submissive wife. Yes, including wearing a beautiful day collar for her husband. And honestly? I’m disgusted by the flood of negativity she’s receiving. The comments, the mocking duets and stitches, it is nothing short of cruel.
One creator in particular stitched her video just to ridicule her. She accused her of “exploiting kink,” called her names, and had the audacity to say that if she’s truly submissive, she shouldn’t be using a platform to speak out at all. That submissive women should be silent and invisible.
Let me make something crystal clear: those are her words, not mine, and they are absolutely vile.
First and foremost, there is no one right way to practice BDSM or kink. That’s one of the foundational truths of this lifestyle. What works for one dynamic may not work for another. And that’s okay. That’s beautiful, actually.
Just because this creator identifies as a Trad-Wife does not mean she’s excluded from the world of BDSM or power exchange. People seem to assume that because she embraces a traditional household role, she can’t possibly be kinky or submissive in a meaningful way. That assumption is not only wrong, it is ignorant.
In fact, Trad-Wife dynamics often do intersect with power exchange. Sometimes quite deeply. As someone who lives a similar life and would proudly be a Trad-Wife if I ever marry my Masters, I can tell you firsthand that caring for a home, cooking, and nurturing isn’t about oppression, it is about fulfillment. My fulfillment.
There is nothing wrong with a woman choosing to be a housewife. There is nothing wrong with choosing submission, or motherhood, or traditional values, especially when it is her choice. That’s what empowerment really looks like.
What truly bothers me is watching people within our own community attack others simply because their version of kink doesn’t match their own. I don’t need to practice BDSM your way for us to coexist peacefully. But what I cannot stand is bullying. These so called “critiques” are nothing more than verbal abuse disguised as discourse. And let’s be honest, they’re just bullies.
Let me make something else very clear, I am a submissive woman. I use platforms like this, to educate, uplift, and build community. I have never been silent. And I will never be silent.
Being submissive does not mean being voiceless. It does not mean invisibility. And it absolutely does not mean weakness.
Anyone who believes submission is synonymous with silence clearly misunderstands the depth and strength of what it truly means to serve with intention and love. A Trad-Wife can be all those things and more, and maybe the real issue isn’t her lifestyle, but your discomfort with a woman boldly living on her terms, not yours.
So instead of tearing others down for how they live, maybe it is time to reflect. You don’t have to understand her choices, but you do need to respect them, or at the very least, mind your own business.
Because honestly? Your judgment is not only irrelevant, it is deeply unattractive.