"To cede control to another is not weakness; it's a calculated risk, a dance of trust and vulnerability." Rope_aficionado
This quote right here is everything. When I hear people that are submissive or desiring to go and become a slave to someone but they dont even put themselves out there. They refuse to open up, be transparent and show the darkest part of their souls becuase they are "scared" to even share who they really are.
When you arent giving it all you have. When you arent risking yourself to be opened up and hurt becuase it will happen. Then you arent even trying. People dont even want to put the work into making a relationship work anymore. Whether it is a romantic relationship, BDSM relationship,, or even friendship. I shouldnt have to pull information out of you and I shouldnt have to feel it is all one sided.
Dont sit there and tell me you want ot be a slave. You want a dominant to own you. To have full life control over all of your actions and then turn around and not even give someone a chance. It takes a leap of faith that this person wont hurt you. It is a risk because likely you wont find your forever dom for a long time. However if you never step outside of your comfort zone and open up and take a shot into the dark you arent going to find one either.
Life is mess and brutal and lonely. Why do you keep building up brick by brick around you when all you are craving is to have that one connection with that one person who you should be sharing your soul with. I have been hurt a lot in m dynamic/relationship. I get hurt, I get angrry, I get upset, and disappointed. It is hard to see dominants as humans sometimes,, but that is what they are, and they make mistakes just as we do.
I would never be where I am today without taking a risk. Without trusting the two dominants in my life to care for me and not hurt me. i would rather work on my dynamic and relationship with them through the hurt and the pain. I will never be that person who has ten men in my back pocket that I can run to when I dont get my way. I value the people I choose to be in my life. I take the risk to push through the hurt and pain when someone makes a mistake.
I cry just like anyone else does, but I choose happiness. I choose to push through my fear and insecurities to rip open who I am down to the very core of my being and share that with the two people who I have chosen to rule my life. Not doing this would make me completely lonely and then what? What or who would control me then? My Fears would. My insecurities would. The people who caused me so much pain and trauma in the past would still control me.
I refuse to let that happen. I will always take the risk of being hurt over living in the shadows with a lonely miserable life controlled by my fear!!!
How about you?
