For those that don't know, I am married (for almost 19 years now) to my Ma'am. The issue that keeps coming up is, she is (in my opinion) a switch. (and I think actually craves being a sub more than she lets on). I know how to top....but I am a bottom, through and through. The end result....I am not getting the domination I need, and she is not getting the submission she needs. When we first ventured intot the lifestyle as a couple, I was her Daddy Domme, I studied and read up how to effectivly do it, and she was happy with it. But being able to do something and deriving pleasure from it are two different things. I did get pleasure from our scenes, but not like I would get when I submit. So, I want to ask her if I can be topped by someone else....she would still own me, I would still do the little things I do for her, but I would be a service top for her as well, so she could get the submission she needs. (She is a hotwife as well, so I am not the only outlet for her sexually or physically). I have a friend who is a Domme, and she has agreed to top for me, as long as Ma'am agrees. I guess I am just tying to hear what everyone's opinions/thoughts are...