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From Master to Sir

3 months ago. January 31, 2025 at 2:33 PM

In between the going back and forth with my Gorean Master, I was active online under a hidden name. Naughty naughty.. But I was in a living situation that was not good..so I had to leave. I was having a really hard time at this time, and my Gorean Master had decided to use the ignore tactic as a punishment, which wasn't good, so I was unable to get a hold of him. He ignored any and all calls and messages that I sent him.

Let me pause here by saying I do not recommend the ignore tactic as a punishment. Disagree if you will, but it is mentally damaging and if there is an emergency, your submissive cannot get a hold of you. The one person that is supposed to protect her and keep her safe.

When I say I was in a life-threatening situation I will leave it at that without any further details. I met a dom in a chat room on AirG who came to my rescue and removed me from the bad situation I was in. We hadn't been talking that long really, but I was thankful for someone to help me get out of that. So, we moved in together, but he didn't have his own place. Later on, we were able to get our own place, but he couldn't hold a job. So I got a job, besides, I liked to work anyway.

As far as experiences..I wouldn't say this one was that intense. I got away with a lot. I used my clever techniques to get myself out of trouble. Then one day, he brought another girl home. I didn't even know he was going to get her. We hadn't discussed this before. I tried so hard to adapt to this new change, but I soon discovered that I really didn't like girls in that way and I also did not like sharing. This was how I discovered I was not into poly. As you can imagine, even after we had moved, it still didn't work out. Moving the other girl in so abruptly was always in the back of my mind. And even though she eventually left, I couldn't let it go. We went out separate ways soon after and I told him I didn't want to continue our relationship and asked him to release me.

And can you guess who I ended up talking to again after that ended... more coming up on the next post.

Spanks hard(dom male) - Rspark I have to agree that the silent treatment is the worst punishment of all also I don't care for it either.

3 months ago

BunnyBites(sub female){HoK} - I am glad you got out of a really scary situation.

That being said when you said you were on a different account the way you wrote it makes it seem like you were hiding from your Master, which is behavior I do not condone in a submissive at all. We have to be honest with ourselves and our partners. HOWEVER if I misinterpreted your words and you were HIDING from your life threatening situation then I understand having to do that.

As for the man bringing in another woman you have to be the advocate for yourself and this was a learning experience. If you DO NOT communicate prior to being in a relationship the standards and expectations you want and need then we cannot be upset wien things happen. However that being said, he should NEVER have brought anyone in without discussing it with you and YOU TWO having a firm agreement that this is what you BOTH want. However NOW you know what you want and that is NOT it. So I am glad you were strong enough to step away from that relationship because it was not your need.

Now as for the Ignoring as a punishment. It is my opinion and experience that Ignoring your submissive/slave for NO reason at all is ABUSIVE. It will ALWAYS be abusive to me. However if that slave/submissive is being a toxic little shit then the Master has a right to say UNTIL you choose to behave and speak to me appropriately then you will NOT be in my presence.....PRESENCE....That does NOT mean they do NOT answer phone calls or text messages when it is an EMERGENCY....That also does NOT mean that the slave can abuse that and say Master 911 and then continue to be a little shit.

Honestly the main issues here are communication. You should make being ignored a HARD limit. I have also done that in my contracts with EVERY Dominant/Master I have ever belonged to.

They always say Hindsight is 20/20. Sometimes we know right away what we need, want and how to communicate and advocate for that and other times we have to learn it through experiences. You are growing and learning who you are and what kind of dynamic you want and need.

I am just glad you are truly safe. Never hesitate to reach out to me if you need to talk, vent, or honestly find yourself in a shitty situation again. I know what its like to be scared and feel as if you have no one or no where to go for help.

much love and respect
Ava

3 months ago

rsparks(sub female) - Thanks for your feedback! All of these were first time experiences, so thankfully I learned what I did and did not like from them. I am also always here if you need someone to talk to.

3 months ago

SubSided(sub female) - Silent treatment isn't punishment, it's abuse.

You can't enter into a power exchange with someone who cares naught for you.

3 months ago

rsparks(sub female) - Totally agree. And I am never disrespectful, usually only playful.

3 months ago

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