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Infernal Affairs

One man's memoir of debauched enlightenment
1 year ago. October 4, 2023 at 10:09 PM

I posted this as a comment to someone's opine around loneliness elseweb.  I thought it was worth reposting here.

 

Loneliness can be a real albatross around your neck. And fixing it isn't as simple as interacting and hanging out with people. All that does is reiterate the fact that you're not quite like everyone else - or rather, you don't seem to quite fit with other people.  Other people are the ones who make you feel ostracised in the first place. Like a single jigsaw piece in the wrong box.

Interacting with other people just highlights how different, how alien you are. You want and value different things - when you actually want anything at all.

Solitude is preferable to the uncomfortable friction that other people provide.  Somehow, that doesn't seem to be the case for others.  So why is it so obviously the case whenever we're foolish enough to strive for company?

What is needed is to find the right people to include in your life. People who are like you on the inside - or, at least, the yin to your Yang.

Of course, finding those people is like looking for a needle in a haystack. Complicated by the fact you have an allergy to that same hay in the first place.

Then again, some people can master loneliness - they can get through being alone without being lonely.  There is strength in that

 


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