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Balance the multiple sides 

You want the personal connection but knowing how much to say and when...

You don't want to come off as a prude but you want more than just conversation about sex...

At the same time, there had been a lack of sexual fulfillment and being told what you want is wrong,dirty, or nasty. It is extremely important those needs will be met. 

Here being 'dirty' or 'slutty' isn't looked at the same way.

Under the right circumstances I have a high sex drive and sexual response.

So how do you come across as both highly intelligent with the ability to carry on a conversation and the cock hungry, highly responsive, multi orgasmic subbie you keep locked away?