An under-consideration period gives both the Dominant and the submissive the opportunity to discover if they will be a good match for a D/s dynamic. It is a trial period to decide if the Dominant and submissive’s styles are compatible. During this time, either partner can decide to end the UC period without obligation or resentment.
What is the purpose of being under consideration?
The purpose of being under consideration is to confirm that both partners needs will be satisfied in the dynamic. While under- consideration, the Dominant begins to introduce the submissive to structured training necessary for a successful dynamic. Also, this is the proper time to introduce the core pillars of BDSM, which are communication, honesty, respect, trust and understanding. Under-consideration is where the Dominant begins to mold these significant elements into the mind of the submissive to build a solid foundation.
What are the expectations of the submissive & Dominant during the UC period?
The Dominant and submissive decide what the expectations will be during the under-consideration period. Think of it as a no-fault trail period with rules and expectations to determine if the dynamic will work. Negotiations, assignments, tasks and scenes are permitted during this time.
How long should an under-consideration period last?
Usually, the Dominant decides how long the UC period will last, but keep in mind, either partner can decide to end the UC period at any time. The most important thing to consider is to not rush the process due to the exciting and intoxicating feeling that may occur.
What are the benefits of the under-consideration period?
The under-consideration period allows the Dominant and submissive to get to know each other before making a full commitment. Both partners will have an opportunity to present their Active Dominance and Active submission to each other. If there is no real connection, there will be no reason to make a full commitment to the D/s dynamic.
What parameters will be set during the under-consideration period?
This is an exciting time to practice negotiations, which should include time, limits, expectations, needs, wants, rules, protocol, and goals.
Is the under-consideration period required?
The under-consideration period is not required; however, it can be beneficial for both partners.
Under-consideration is an excellent and useful tool to help build a solid foundation between the Dominant and submissive in a BDSM or D/s dynamic, making the connection between both partners better.
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