Subtle Dominance

Very often, I am approached by individuals who express a desire to serve me. I take servitude and ownership very seriously, and I believe it is important to be informed of what will be expected and required of myself and the submissive, respectfully.

My Commitment to those who desire to serve me

• You will be treated with respect and care at all times.
• To create a goal-oriented trial period in which the submissive will be taught how to honor, serve and worship me.
• To set and maintain boundaries for the submissive to adhere to.
• To provoke interesting assignments, discussions and tasks that will prepare the submissive for ownership, if applicable.
• To identify performance gaps and assist with closing gaps so that the submissive can operate from an authentic and creative space of Excellence.

Expectations of potential servants while under consideration

• Treat me with respect and care at all times.
• Be honest about your experience and remember this is a safe space for you to be your authentic self.
• Be open to building trust in order to relinquish a certain level of control needed to groom and train you.
• Complete all assignments and tasks on time.
• Maintain a genuine desire to learn how to honor, serve and worship me.
• Trust the process and know that you can be released from service if you no longer believe that I am adding value to your life.

Domina Reigns

”There are two kinds of strength:

the strength to lead and the strength to follow…the strength to control and the strength to yield…

There are two types of power:

the power to strip away another’s soul bare, and the power to stand naked.

-Yaldah Tovah

The characteristics of a Supreme Domme…

This is my mantra that I strive to practice each day.~

1. Kind & Considerate - always thinking about the emotional and physical needs of her submissive.

2. Empathy & Sympathy - always understanding and supportive while the submissive learns what it takes to please her.

3. Respectful - always aware and considerate of the fact that the submissive chooses to serve her, understanding the servant is first a human being and does deserves to be treated with respect.

4. Good Communicator - always expressing her thoughts in a clear manner, so that the submissive understands her needs and wants.

5. Can admit a mistake - Eventually, there will come a time when errors will be made by both the submissive and Domme. The best policy is to admit it and apologize. A true Dominant can see their own faults, accept them and acknowledge their wrongs when it is appropriate.

6. Open - always open to the idea that they are not perfect and are always learning.

7. Honest - In order for the submissive to fully submit, a Domme must always be truthful and never lie to her servant.

8. Confidant - always have a calm relaxed and confident demeanor. Study to show yourself approved and walk in high esteem while learning your craft.

9. Trustworthy - always respect your submissive’s boundaries and limits and assure them you will never put them in harms way.

10. Responsibility - The true essence of a Dominant is all based around having a duty and accountability to one’s self and others mentally, emotionally and physically to achieve the goals of the dynamic agreement.

11. Resilient - always have the emotional, mental and physical fortitude to withstand the difficulties that come with life and the responsibility of being a Supreme Domme.

“You will find comfort and peace beneath my Beautiful feet.”

Domina Reigns

Active submission means you make your submission available to your Dominant. Being present and being open for submission takes practice, and it will look different in every dynamic.  The environment must be set to welcome power exchange where openings for submission happen, and the Dominant feels invited to assert control at any point.  When you need clarification on a task, offer active, open-ended suggestions for future service.  Dominance and submission cannot live in a vacuum.  You have to actively demonstrate that you enjoy your chosen role and offer your partner opportunities to be a part of that exchange with you.

True Dominance is subtle…

A presence that draws you in…

A force that commands without saying one word…

Captivating its devotee from beginning to end.

Domina Reigns

The concept of subtle Dominance involves the ability to influence the way someone behaves or thinks without demand. It’s about presenting a presence of authority, control and/or power without pressure through body language, communication, and decision making. It can be used as a form of manipulation or power exchange as well as to guide and groom others in a nurturing and productive way. The idea of subtle Dominance will indeed be viewed as subjective depending on the dynamic involved. 

I discovered the definition of subtle Dominance while researching different styles of Domination. Quite to my surprise, subtle Dominance does exist and is expressed by people who choose to Dominate in ways that might be deemed difficult to analyze. *Especially, in the early stages of becoming acquainted with a submissive who has a desire to serve. In the beginning of my journey as a Dominant, I imagined that Dominance meant asserting authority or influence in a way that was demanding, direct, and self-centered. I thought it meant having a mean streak, (which I do possess), and a destained dislike towards men (I plead the fifth). 

During the process of my evolution and engagement with individuals in the BDSM community, I learned to embraced the essence of my Devine Feminine Energy. I am Domina Reigns and I identify as a soft Domme. Welcome to my world of subtle Dominance.

If you have the opportunity to connect with me, you will find that I am in no rush to own you, so don’t ask.

I enjoy learning everything there is to know about you to determine if you have what it takes to serve me.

I do not waste my Dominant energy on every person that enters my DM to confess their desire to please me.

In fact, I prefer that you take your time to observe and study me in detail, because I want you to be sure you understand exactly what you will be getting into. 

I want a partner, not a slave… if you do not understand the difference, your first assignment would be to do research and tell me what you discover. 

Your sexual fantasies are of no concern of mine, as you would have no use for the tool between your legs for a very long time.

Your position, symbolically and physically, will be to lie prostrate at my Beautiful feet, in a gesture of devotion and humility as you surrender your life to me. In return, you will experience a purpose filled life as I guide and lead you on your way to true submission. 

My Dominance must be earned and will only be rewarded fully at the proper time. 

Domina Reigns