I value the four core principles of BDSM…
Communication, Honesty, Respect and Trust. Here is my list of relationship goals and expectations.
Current Relationship Goals
- To create a goal-oriented trial period in which the submissive will thrive under my guidance and leadership.
- To provoke interesting discussions, tasks and assignments that will prepare the submissive for service and/or ownership.
- To set and maintain boundaries that will discipline and strengthen the mind of the submissive.
- To identify performance gaps and aid with closing those gaps.
- To provide a safe space of comfort and peace so that the submissive can embrace his authentic self.
Expectations
- Treat me with respect and always care.
- Be honest about your experience; this is a safe space for you to be your authentic self.
- Complete all assignments and task on time.
- Maintain a genuine desire to learn how to honor, serve and worship me.
- Inform me if you need to take a break from the dynamic and remember to always use your safe word.
It’s the little things that matter most to me…
1. Recognize that I am a woman of substance and my dominance is an extension of who I am.
Pay attention to the subtle things that make me happy: like, morning affirmations, mid-day and evening check ins. Honoring me on Goddess Worship Sundays. (You will learn more about this while under consideration) Always approach respectfully, and address me as Madam Domina. Always ask for permission to speak and permission to be excused before we close out our conversations.
2. Make it clear to me how important I am to you.
Let us be clear, that your family must be your first priority. There are no exceptions to this rule. Also, you must take care of yourself, mentally and physical, to provide me with your best acts of service. The way you show me that I am important is by making scheduled time for me and being ProActive in your submission. That means that you will not always wait for me to give you assignments and tasks, but instead you will go out of your way to find out how you may better serve me. Examples: Making small gestures to show me that you have been thinking about me during the course of the day; writing letters to give thanks for allowing you to be present in my life, sending small gifts of appreciation, like tea sends, breakfast, lunch or dinner, if you believe I am adding value to your life. Doing all these things from a space of desire to please me without expecting anything in return.
3. Respecting the Honor Code.
Always be clear and honest about your boundaries and limitations and understand that you have the right to say no. Inform me in a reasonable time when you are not able to complete an assignment and/or tasks, understanding not being able to do so may still carry a penalty. Be clear on the level of submission you are willing to offer at each level of the dynamic. If allowed, be respectful when engaging with other Dominants. They should know right away that you are under consideration, and there is no room for error on this matter. Always remember, that you are free to resign from your position of submission at anytime for any reason.
4. Understand the difference between the fantasy of submission vs. the reality of submission.
You have a life, a career, family and friends. You are a human being with a personality outside of being a submissive in this dynamic. Kink is just one aspect our dynamic. There will be times when we will need to have conversations outside of our respective roles as Dominant and submissive.
5. Be empowered by your desire to serve me and willing to suppress your personal fantasies.
You should always function to the best of your ability because you desire to please me, and you should never be disobedient on purpose to fulfill a sexual urge. Example: Not completing an assignment or task for the sake of your personal gratification. Never topping from the bottom, meaning you create a situation in which the power of exchange becomes reversed.
6. Be proud of your submission and servitude to me.
Be willing to trust the process and be open to doing things you may not be comfortable with; however, I will always respect your hard limits at all times.
7. Understand that I am a complexed woman who is evolving in my Dominance.
I am not perfect, I will make mistakes, and I ask that you make room for forgiveness if I should ever make you feel uncomfortable. Caring and nurturing you will always be my top priority.
8. submission is a gift, and Dominance is a privilege.
Domina Reigns
SUPREME