I'm curious, working with my therapist we have found alot of anxious avoidant/disorganized attachment styles in my life, stretching all the way back to childhood of course.
What do you believe is the best way to fix them? How do you struggle in your life with them? I'm seeing habitual patterns in all social and personal relationships for me personally.
I get attached or like them
I love bomb and give it all away anything to secure their time, attention, the feel goods
They don't reciprocate in the depth I need, or something shows up that makes me pause and question everything
I devalue and push them away, fearful, angry I let myself have feelings, etc.
Loneliness and guilt set in, they aren't bad it's just me, I want them around or they reach out and it triggers the feel goods again and so I sink right back into it.
I guess I'm looking for any advice or anything to help fix it. Therapy is leaning towards inner healing and learning to love myself so I'm not chasing it in others because from the cycle described I don't love myself? I don't believe I'm loveable I guess. I don't know it's therapist words not mine.
Anyway thank you for reading all of this. Have a wonderful night.