subtle thoughts

Beware the “self-taught” dominant.

He learned about kink from “trial and error”. 

He likes to “learn on the job”.

He learned from an uncle.

He didn’t read books. He doesn’t go to community classes or discussions or demonstrations. He doesn’t ever learn anything new.

But he’s been living the lifestyle for years. He’s never had a problem… that he knows of. Surely that is proof enough he is safe.

And he will talk down to you as his submissive to demonstrate his dominance. To prove ir. And to test you.

Do not be the guinea pig. Or do. But do so with eyes wide open.

You say you want someone 100% passive.

So you want a doormat? Someone who will agree to whatever you want? You don’t understand that submission is an active choice. That makes it all the more sweeter because while the sub is fully capable of saying no but says yes because they choose to. They have agency. Then you know you are worthy of their submission and only then.

Try reading a book on power exchange.

Try attending a class. 

Education is sexy af.