The Inner Workings of A Serial Submissive

SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} - 🤦♀️ someone save us from definitions written by people who ARENT a SAM or BRAT. 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️

SAMs and BRATS are similar to the point that they get confused with each other, yes. However, you will find that most Brats are not SAMs while most SAMs are Brats. The difference is the masochism. Most Brats don't like heavy amounts of pain. That's not to say that ALL brats hate pain, just most. We prefer different forms of BDSM, namely primal and bondage. There are less boundaries in primal which play to our Brat nature while bondage provides that safe 'cage' in which to release our rage into while assuring safety for everyone around us.

SAMs are seeking pain, period. You can be a SAM and NOT be a submissive and have absolutely no interest in a D/s relationship. They want pain. For them, they use pain as a cathartic release in a way that Brats use bondage or primal.

SAMs are usually far more confident and have higher self-esteem than a Brat and so do not require as much validation of value and worth than a Brat does. Brats are NEVER disrespectful of their Doms. Mouthy? Cheeky? Oh yes! And from the outside, it WILL look like outright disrespect, but that's because it's being viewed from someone ELSE'S lens.

But a Brat is NEVER disrespectful of their Dom, publicly. 😁

The goal of a Brat's mouthyness is to connect. The goal of a SAMs mouthyness is to receive pain. Their methods can look the same but it's the goal and motivation that is different.

Blondie​(sub female){Collared} - Thank you for your point of view. It shows that everyone has one and they are as varied as each of us is. 😁
I don’t really believe in being able to check off neat little boxes when it come to exactly what I am as a submissive. I am a messy mixture of many things and that is what makes me uniquely me.
This was just an interesting subject that I came across that I thought that I might share.

SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} - I agree, it IS a fascinating! I've tried to be open to understanding many different forms of BDSM in the last several years even if they conflict with my own set of ethics and limits. I can't say it's been easy for me, and I can't say I've not pissed off a person or three in the process but I've grown because of it.

I've also learned how pervasive a certain set of ideals is within the community at large as well as a certain set of misconceptions. It's mind boggling sometimes! How can a community that touts the motto of "your kink is not my kink but your kink is ok" (in other words, "it's not my thing but if you like it, that's all that matters") be so HATE-FILLED towards ANY kink?

Jack in the box - Green eggs and ham 😏

Thank you for sharing on this subject Ms Blondie 😘🌹

Blondie​(sub female){Collared} - But I don’t like green eggs and ham! lol

You are welcome Jack. 😘

sexycurves​(sub female) - Never heard of Sam until now. Interesting, now I want to know more...

Blondie​(sub female){Collared} - There are so many interpretations and views. It made me laugh when I saw it, I thought it was a joke at first. Depending on who you talk to, certain people may tell you that I am a SAM. lol

jkillaaa​(sub female) - Never heard of a SAM. Interesting read, but I’d like to think in the above example scenario a brat would probably be more likely to say, “make me!” VS just “no.” We aren’t completely defiant.. it’s just more fun to make the d-types work for it 😜☺️

SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} - Would you believe that I think I've said "make me" once? It's so trite and boring. I prefer more creative, verbal dueling ways...

LaVieEnRose​(sub female){Kintsugi} - That’s interesting, I’ve never heard that term before. Ever since finding my Sir I have found my bratty tendencies have minimised, it was almost as though I used it as a way to weed out the fakes and protect myself. I am definitely a tease but not much of a brat anymore I’d say…which I myself found to be an interesting evolution and one I didn’t realise happening until it did.

Blondie​(sub female){Collared} - I have found that each dynamic that I have had the opportunity to be in has brought out different parts of my submission and personality. I can totally see how that can happen for you. 💖

SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} - That doesn't surprise.me a bit. I've found that once a Brat feels safe, accepted, validated, and heard....the "need" to poke the bear falls away.

Morley​(sub female){Max Sterne} - As you said above, We are all unique ♥️ I personally dislike any label. I am many things and all those things make me, ME. 😉

Great post! ✨️

Blondie​(sub female){Collared} - Thank you. I am always trying to learn more about the lifestyle and find ways to learn more about myself in the process.