Sorting Myself

Morley​(sub female){Max Sterne} - This is a great blog. I never thought of this either. Looking forward to the comments.

HGB​(sub female){Scottish M} - Ditto

Bleiz​(sub female) - Thank you both! 🤗

The thought of having protocols in place that both sides of the slash are aware of seems like the right thing to do. Not sure why it's not discussed more often. I'm hoping to see some great suggestions. ❣️

Jack in the box -
Creating the correct mindset is the most fun - in my opinion 😎

Bleiz​(sub female) - Sounds great, Jack! May I ask what you do to create that mindset?

Jack in the box -
Highly individualized, and very scene specific - not something I could just create a recipe for.
But yes, it all starts in the mind.

Bleiz​(sub female) - Thank you

HGB​(sub female){Scottish M} - Never heard of. My first thought was discussing limits, what would I be wanting, limits, off limits. Like I love canes and paddles. I love bruises and marks but don't do on my tattoo. It cost to much to get fucked up.

Bleiz​(sub female) - Great suggestion! We've discussed limits and expectations before entering our dynamic, but definitely wouldn't hurt to review them. Thank you! 🤗

HGB​(sub female){Scottish M} - I am curious where you heard the term precare

Bleiz​(sub female) - I follow a few submissives on another platform and that was their topic this week. But the only pre-care they mentioned was a good night's sleep the evening before and a ritual they have when putting on their play collar.

sir james ladies​(sub female){oh yes ple} - this is the reason we meditate half hour every morning. keeps us ready for whatever the day brings.

Bleiz​(sub female) - Thank you sjl! Do you meditate every morning or only the day a scene will take place?

sir james ladies​(sub female){oh yes ple} - every morning because you never know when service is needed.

Bleiz​(sub female) - This is a great idea and something I'm going to start doing. Thank you so much!

Sir Don​(dom male){Nt looking} - I think as a Dom setting the scene we are after something specific so something with candles lit and soft music, it is setting the stage , to me that is having pre care in mind. Just my thoughts. I also agree with Jack scene specific

Bleiz​(sub female) - Those are great ways to get us into a sub mindset and setting the scene. Thank you for sharing!

Bunnie - As I can’t speak from the perspectives of being in-person 24/7, I can only share from how I prepared before meeting for sessions or before going to play parties with the local group I was in...

For me, “pre-care” would be the whole day leading up to the play party or session... that’s after having picked out what I would be wearing... which could be classed as being part of it all too.

Physically, I would shower and shave everywhere necessary, moisturiser with my favourite beautiful scented moisturiser, apply make-up... all of this was done languidly, enjoying the preparation. It was a part of the whole process for me... almost a ritual.
I would also nourish the inside of my body... making sure to drink plenty of water, and to eat well. Playing puts a lot of strain on our bodies, whether we “notice” or not (think physiologically). It’s hard work... even if we’re simply being tied.

I like to begin with a full tank :)

Does any of this help with sub-drop?
I don’t know. I do the same process after playing as well, but in reverse... starting with the internal nourishment, and working towards the outside of my body.

Personally I think it’s just important to find what works for you. Getting some ideas is a great way to then be able to have a play around with things and observe your responses to them.

My routine didn’t happen overnight... it occurred over time, seeing what happened when I did different things. There was probably no “real reason” that I created one initially, beyond knowing that if I wasn’t doing something beforehand, my excitement mixed with just waiting would simply make me jump out of my skin :b ... and having a bit of a “thing” for ritual (it’s quite meditative to me).

Jack in the box -

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Sir Don​(dom male){Nt looking} - Lol

Bleiz​(sub female) - Thank you for your response, Bunnie! I love the whole day preparation suggestion. Thank you for sharing your routine with us. 🤗