Take being a Dom out of the equation for a moment. Because in my opinion, you cannot be a true and good Dom, if you are not a good man first.
A real man treats a woman, first and foremost, with respect. Every person deserves to be respected, man or woman, by the mere fact they are a human being and it is a basic human right.
A real man has integrity. And that means, being strong enough in character to be honest. Honest about himself, honest about his situation ... just honest.
I consider myself a feminist, to a degree. I believe in equal rights, the right to choose our own lives and paths .. you get the gist of it (I hope). A real man gives a woman the chance to choose for herself, knowing all the facts before entering into a relationship with him. As well, as when things evolve in the relationship. Be man enough to just be honest, not ghosting her, playing cruel tricks, leaving her confused and hurt.
One who is brave enough to tell the truth, face the realities. He does not take that choice away from her. Forcing her, unwittingly to make a choice based on a lie. A real man owns up to his mistakes.
Lying is a choice. It is not an accident. It is deliberate. It is the act of a coward.
I have watched friends here be lied to, myself included, blatantly lied to, omissions, fed half-truths, or completely mislead, tricked and treated cruelly.
Sadly, some here are only masters of one thing ... deceit and cruelty. Over-inflated egos. You are not worth the time of day. There are many better men out there that will most happily step up and show her how a real man treats her and enjoy her and you won't even be a spot of dust in their light.
To the men here who are deceivers ... I say "How dare you!!!???" How dare you try to isolate a woman from her friends? How dare you lie, trick and mislead? How dare you play with a woman's heart and emotions like they have no worth?? Who do you think you are??
I will tell you ... you are spineless, cowards and weak. Not even CLOSE to the measure of a real man. And most definitely not a good and true Dom.
A real man treats with respect, caring, love, kindness and honesty, even with the knowledge she may walk away. But at least you can both have your dignity intact and it is based on truth.
A real man makes the choice to do the right thing, not play games. These are REAL lives, REAL people, REAL emotions, REAL pain.
When you have these qualities and live by them each and every day, then you can consider yourself to be ready to be a good and true Dom.
Unfortunately, those who need to read this won't. Sadly, they will just move on to their next victim. You know who you are!! And if you don't, well...if you are doing any of the above to a person ... hopefully you'll feel some guilt and step up and just do the right thing.
And to the good men and Doms here, please .. keep being who you are. Women, subs ... need you! They need to know there are good men and Doms out there. And when you know of a wrong doing, reach out and let them know ... it's not cool. Be a mentor.
Yes, I am angry today. Angry that my precious friends are in pain and I can only console and help hold them up until they gain their strength and confidence again.
To those who cause such pain, I'll leave you to your imagination as to how I'd like to use my sword on you.
Better yet, BE A MAN!!!
A REAL man!
