Ginger's Nest

JustJaz​(sub female) - This was literally me for the past week. I jump into things so quickly and they fizzle out even quicker. I have done so much soul searching, self reflection, journaling, reading that I’m even more exhausted than I ever thought possible. My negative thoughts have me spiraling so deep that it feels like I’ll be alone forever. One thing that keeps me going is regardless of the outcome I will continue to be myself in the process and while I have walls, I allow myself the time and patience to learn to accept myself, learn from mistakes, speak up about my feelings and do better the next time. I always wonder if I’m doing things right, being a good enough sub or saying the right things but in the end I just have to be myself and find people who accept it. I’m pretty new to this site and still learning so if you ever wanna chat feel free to reach out!

little dragon​(sub female) - Thank you for the reassurance that its not just me. I appreciate that.

Susie Q{Daddy Ant} - Everyone goes thru this. You are not alone. It takes time, patience and diligence, sometimes more patience than we like. Something that I read once "Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place."
~Kurt Vonnegut
Build the walls that protect but not ones to keep people out. Please, please do not say you are not a good enough you, because you are!

little dragon​(sub female) - Thank you susie q, I appreciate that. I'm doing the best I can, but lately has been a lot harder to deal with. I'm usually a silver lining kinda gal, but its been hard to see it.

jackdaws - I am very sorry you are going through this, it is always such a painful experience thinking you can place your trust in someone, building that relationship, and then finding out that someone is just using you. I have been in that position a few times, and each and every time, it hurts. But, I am also a firm believer that there is someone out there for everyone. Someone will find you, and will be everything you need them to be and more. Once you find that person (or people, who am I to judge after all), you will look back on this, it won't hurt as much but hurt it will, but it will be something that you grew from, something you learned from. All of my past failed relationships hurt when they broke apart, some more than others, but each one I now look back on and am happy that they led me to where I am now.

I sincerely hope that this is your experience.

You are NOT at fault, these people that broke your trust and care are. Never let your experiences tell you that you are the one to blame, there are just an awful lot of absolutely terrible people out there.

People think giving up is the easiest route, it truly is not. Giving up is hard work, this is why so many battered partners stay with abusive assholes. Giving up is HARD work, because you have invested so much time in that relationship. I am proud that you are out of it at the same time as being sorry that you have to experience it. You are far stronger than you know. Keep looking, your perfect partner/s are out there... some of them just happen to be in the form of a Teddy Bear... or Cake (or preferred comfort food).

Sending interweb hugs and positive vibes.

little dragon​(sub female) - Thank you for that, one day I will be out of it, unfortunately I am still in it, but I'm looking for the way out.
Interweb hugs back 🙂

jackdaws - I am so sorry to hear that, and I apologise for assuming. If you are not out of it and want out, then I hope that you manage to get out safely and with as little extra baggage as possible (if you manage to leave without any baggage, then please, teach everyone around the world your ways). If you end up deciding that staying in it is the best option for you, then make sure to establish STRONG boundaries. I would establish strong boundaries now whether you are leaving or staying though. You are NOT to blame. You are far stronger than you realise. BUT, don't stay in it if it is causing you pain (well... the bad pain at least), you are worth so much more than putting yourself through that. Whatever the outcome, you are amazing for being as strong as you are, even when you don't feel it... I mean after all, you are a little dragon, why be anything else! Dragons are always Awesome!