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SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} - During a recent experience with comparing kink and limits and such, it was defined BEAUTIFULLY for me so I pass it on to this discussion:

Soft limits: these are limits that are openly discussed and the reasons they exist are shared IN DEPTH. Exploration of pushing those limits are expected, but ONLY after discussion.

Hard limits: these limits are NOT up for discussion UNLESS the person who has those limits brings it up. They are not an opportunity to kink shame or for the other party to push against them.

Where there are difference....either they are accepted AS IS or they are discussed but NEVER should whining be involved.

I hate avacados.
Someone else loves them.

NEITHER is wrong and NEITHER should be ridiculed for it.

Jack in the box -
A great response Ms SBD 👍
Thank you for sharing this. ☺
Hope you are doing good ⚘

Tasnim​(other female) - I know and understand exactly what you're talking about here. People say sacrifices are natural in a relationship... But no one notices the damage caused by constantly sacrificing... It destroys relationships. Better to join in the middle t satisfy both after a discussion rather than one of the partners giving up on their wishes for the other partner. That's how I feel.

Jack in the box -
"No one notices the damage"
Exactly .
I am entering into a new relationship, with thoughts and reflections of past relationships - sacrifices and dare I say, resentment "look what I did for you" - but it was my choice, right?
Thank you for your input Ms T,
Much appreciated ☺⚘

Tasnim​(other female) - Hah what I say are just philosophical words which I think is the best answer or the best way to do something. It doesn't mean I myself am able to follow though. Honestly when I love... Have feelings for a guy I give my all even if it means sacrificing my wishes... But this is the reason why that affection i felt for the turns into nothing or resentment like you said. It's a slow and painful process. When the last bud of feeling disappears I let them leave. I hurt myself in the relationship till I can't take anymore so that I can fully give up and remove any and all forms of affection and attachments.

Jack in the box -
You are a very wise young lady ⚘

I can see alot of relevance to this topic in the D/s world, or I would think could be anyway.
"Sacrifice"

Tasnim​(other female) - Hahahaha nah all relationships have it, I think all ds/ dynamics are more tolerant towards sacrifices than normal vanilla ones.

Lion​(dom male){Hazel Eyes} - Leave the past as they say in the past, move forward towards the future, don't ruin it with thoughts that haven't happened or things that may never occur. It's a new road, enjoy the trip, see the site's, buy some souvenirs along the way. Just see where it takes you. Oh you will have to stop for gas, snacks, potty breaks, sleep, road side attractions, and occasionally directions if you get lost. There's no map for this road trip. Big hug my friend. 😊❤

Jack in the box -
Always a pleasure, my friend 😊
So right you are.
A good day to you ~
And big hugs back ❤ ☕

Morley​(sub female){Max Sterne} - I feel we are forever evolving and changing as individuals and also when we enter into a relationship. What once may have been a "no go" could now possibly be a "hell yeah". I don't believe in changing for anyone. We change (or should at least) for ourselves, not another. I do however believe in communicating and expressing all the time because as two people become a ONE then we may be open to things we were not as a sole one.

My thoughts... always be willing to bend, but never sacrifice.

Great thought provoking post, In The! 🌼🤍🌼

Jack in the box -
Thank you so much, Ms Karyn ~
Inspiration in the insight indeed. ☺ ⚘

SweetSirRendering​(sub female) - we all grow and change, so a “no” today may be a “need” someday. we can only hope we find fun and flex in ourselves and partners that can stretch us beyond who were into who we grow to be, ideally, enthusiastically together or enthusiastically supportive of our partners fulfilling those needs “on their own” together.

Jack in the box -
Thank you sweety, very wise words
☺ 🤗 😚

SweetSirRendering​(sub female) - sacrifice is a vital part of love.

the line is between acting with love and if self preservation is required, but the stakes are high in more than just our lives. we can always sacrifice for another.

Jack in the box -
Stakes can indeed be very high

SweetSirRendering​(sub female) - Comment deleted by poster.

aliljaded​(sub female) - I guess if there's not an equal amount of giving and take in a relationship (D/s or vanilla). Someone's bound to get resentful. It's a very fine line we walk.
But, anything worth having, is worth risking it all for.

Jack in the box -
I must agree - thank you Ms ☺⚘

ellefire​(sub female) - Maybe you (generic you of course) bend to see how it feels, honestly assessing your thoughts and emotions around it. If it's OK, you continue that bending until/unless it becomes not OK. I think one important aspect is that BOTH/ALL parties need to be bending!

And I'm so glad your boat is floating so high! 😊

Jack in the box -
Thank you so much Ms elle. 🤗

Sounds like sound advice - looking back I had a habit of over bending.
Thank you for sharing ⚘

ellefire​(sub female) - Over bending is not good! Leads to back problems... 😄

Jack in the box -
Right! 😊 😧