Name' sake

SirsBabyDoll​(sub female)​{Pizza+☕} - The one time I engaged in CNC it was online only rollolay and yes, we did have a discussion, however, sometimes things are unknown to be limits until they get tripped over. That happened in my case. I had to call red and the scene was ended, IN CHARACTER, and aftercare was provided. Once aftercare was done, we had a frank and open discussion, going over the positives, negatives, and how it impacted (no pun intended) me that required me to Safeword.

The experience was enlightening and while I wouldn't engage that way again, I don't regret trying it since the proper procedures were followed in post-play.

Jack in the box -
Thank you for sharing your experience Ms SBD, indeed. Thats a concept I hadnt thought of, online play.
Very good points, aftercare and discovering unknown limits.
Ive had several private discussions on the subject of CNC, and thought perhaps a blog post might shed light for those curious.
Again, thank you ??

moll​(other female)​{owned slav} - I don't have a "safeword" per se. Neither of us feel we need one. That's not to say that if I am experiencing problems, he won't allow me to voice them or that he ignores them...quite the contrary. He demands that I let him know if there is something going wrong so he can protect me. He also pays close attention to my body language and stops things when he feels there is a problem, even if I don't feel there is.

Things like R.A.C.K and CNC are not for everyone. It takes a lot of self control, communication, and honesty between partners which is something that a lot of people profess, but don't exhibit.

SirsBabyDoll​(sub female)​{Pizza+☕} - I agree, RACK and CNC isn't for everyone and the Submissive CANNOT be uneducated in the activity and the Dom CANNOT be the only teacher. It's unsafe that way. The Submissive should also learn the unsafe practices from someone OTHER than the Dom as a safeguard. What is HE is the unsafe person?

moll​(other female)​{owned slav} - What you wrote about "the submissive should also learn the unsafe practices....." is very interesting. Thinking about that....it reminds me of some "doms" I met when I was just my Master's submissive. HUH! Future blog post maybe.

Jack in the box -
As always Ms Moll, very appreciative of your input, thank you ? ?
From the perspective of a slave, dare I say, its always CNC? Yes?
Communication and awareness are a must, for sure.
Trust, respect, responsibility, openness, and honesty.

moll​(other female)​{owned slav} - Is it always CNC for a slave? I think that depends on the slave. For me, yes! But I've read a lot of posts from people who call themselves slaves, who also talk about negotiating with their Masters....which is an oxymoron.

Jack in the box -
By definition, I have to agree, yes.
We could easily delve into a whole 'nother discussion on this subject for sure.
TPE, as an example - complete surrender of ones own will.
Butt ☝️
For the sake of educational blog posting (something I rarely do)
We shall keep it to the ins and outs of CNC
I once fulfilled a fantasy of a sub I had. A break into her house and rape. We fully discussed what she wanted. (And didnt want) the most arousing aspect was, she didnt know when it would happen.

moll​(other female)​{owned slav} - I agree that this discussion should stick to CNC and not digress into things like TPE, because I have a lot of issues with that acronym and things could go south quickly.

Breaking in and.... WOW...you really are a bad boy. I'm weirded out and impressed at the same time. But the point is that it was really consensual and was worked out in advance.

Jack in the box -
It was one for the books ?
But weirded out? Why??
Btw, may I ask? How did you come to the name "Moll"? Is it short for Molly?

moll​(other female)​{owned slav} - A little weirded out because, even though it's consensual, the idea of rape is horrific. But I get it.

SirsBabyDoll​(sub female)​{Pizza+☕} - I know from conversations with you that you didn't start out full tilt, all-in, balls to the walls slave. It took time, and experience for you build up to the point you are at now with your Master so for YOU, yes, it's CNC all the time...but it's because of the trust.

moll​(other female)​{owned slav} - Absolutely about trust and it took time to build. And it took a LOT of patience on both our parts, and it was worth it.

moll​(other female)​{owned slav} - And I appreciate your support, Jack.

Jack in the box -
It has occurred to me that. . . . Uh humm. . . . No one has "liked" my blog. ?

moll​(other female)​{owned slav} - Did you order anyone to "like" it?

Jack in the box - Do it!

moll​(other female)​{owned slav} - LOL!! Sure.

Jack in the box -
Totally wrapped
Its the little things ?

sexycurves​(sub female) - I'm not sure this is my thing but I'm interested in what people have to say

Jack in the box -
Welcome aboard young lady ??

sexycurves​(sub female) - Personally, I would probably discuss what's not allowed

moll​(other female)​{owned slav} - Of course, always discuss what you are comfortable with doing and that you are not comfortable doing and go from there.