Many of my forum or blog posts are prompted by posts i see in FB groups about the Lifestyle.... i enjoy lively debates and discussions. Truthfully, i spend a lot of time shaking my head at some of the things i read there, and occasionally i feel as though things need to be more thoroughly discussed, so i bring it here. Not everyone here is like minded, but there the diversity is a bit more broad and the debate is respectful.
So, all that being said, let me get into our feast for this morning....
A submissive posted that her Dominant likes to tease her about the proper way to pronounce her name. Recently, she decided to tease back and was telling the daughter of the D that perhaps they should call him by Mikey. He took an instant dislike of this and chastised her about teaching his daughter to disrespect him. He then said maybe he should call her by his ex's name. Now admittedly this went too far and was a really douchey. She apparently raised her voice, looked him in the eye and demanded that he never do that again. They were in a public place. She was proud of taking her Dominant down a few notches. She refused to apologize and as did he. A few people lauded her behavior in the comments. I just couldn't. My reply was as follows: I have often gotten caught up in teasing to be reprimanded for going too far. While calling you his ex's name definitely isn't ok, i'm not so sure you should be proud of asserting yourself over your dominant, especially in public. Though to each his own... definitely not something i would ever do... and if i did, i would be sorry for it, in more ways than one. Learning to temper emotions and approach things in a calm and rational manner has been a lifelong journey for me, submissive or not. I was bullied and teased most of my life, so as an adult, my reaction to anyone getting the upper hand is to fly into a rage. Not my most desirable trait. I don't do that with Him, nor would i ever. Even if He pisses me off (and it's likely almost daily), i will excuse myself before i lose my shit. He's earned my submission and my respect.... that doesn't ever change.
Have i just aged out of the Lifestyle? Is being a disrespectful cunt ok, nowadays?
I was trained very Old Guard. I view things from a very "keep sweet" point of view for the most part. This by no means makes me a doormat to anyone in my life. I'm type A, driven, a control freak and i manage people for a living. I hire felons from a transitional program and women in sober living. So needless to say, i have to stay on my toes or be completely overtaken. My submission is a safe place for me to stand down. He has earned my trust, devotion and respect. Even if he took something too far i would never disrespect him in public. I'm not perfect, and i've crossed lines, but i'm never proud of it and i am always apologetic. She seemed to think that she earned his love even further for this behavior? What? The only thing i would earn is a severe lecture about my behavior (and i'd honestly rather have a beating...lol).
