Let me start by saying.... this isn't click bait and there is truth in the statement.
A few things before we get into the meat of the conversation...
I'm bi/pan which essentially means I love men, women or whomever floats my boat. My blog here has primarily been about my relationship with Laura, as we met here in The Cage Lobby chat room and the relationship is new and evolving. The blog has been a creative outlet and a place to dump all my gross schmoopiness about her. Some people dig it, others don't, life goes on. She and are are planning forever together and I will soon be moving to her town. Does that make me a lesbian? For the sake of simplicity in the explanation of my relationship, yes... but labeling myself has always made me very uncomfortable. I'm learning to use the verbiage now with more ease. The journey to where we are in our relationship has been long and a lot of hard work. We have both been involved IRL and neither of us really wanted an online only relationship... and definitely not one that was 1200 miles apart. We met and liked each other. It took over a month for us to have our first phone call and it was several months before we realized that we could (or should) video chat. The hours and hours we logged on the phone in faceless contact, gave us the opportunity to bare our souls without fear of judging eyes. Choosing to enter into a dynamic was a serious decision, as it should always be. She didn't leap into my arms with resounding YES YES YES's.... she wanted to think about it and sleep on it. I wasn't offended, I want her forever, so pause and contemplation reassures me that she wants the same.
While I am indeed Laura's Dominant, I am actually a very happily owned slave. Slave, you say?? Yep! M/s for me, baby. Collared, contracted and tattooed in ownership. My relationship with my beloved Master is well chronicled on here in some of my older blog posts. Just because I'm not constantly talking about that dynamic, doesn't mean that it doesn't exist. Being a switch is difficult for people to understand. I can tell you that I NEVER switch with him (or any other man). My needs are very compartmentalized and I flow between the 2 aspects of me fairly easily. It helps to have people in my life that stay firm to who they are in the dynamic. He is always Master, she is always submissive. I'm also romantically involved with both. I love them both. They are friends but not intimate. If you need a visual.... our relationship is a "V" with me being the center. I stay in "Top" space more often than not, as my beloved Master has allowed me to fully explore and become who I need to be, so that I am the very best dominant that I can be for my submissive. I'm fortunate. To find not just one, but two people who love me and accept my love for them, believe that our dynamics are worth the work they require AND put up with the roller coaster ride that my life can be on a daily basis.
NOW... you truly thought this was click bait to get you to read about how much I love mine, didn't you? I can't help to throw it in but I do want to explain the title. In my M/s relationship (or any previous D/s relationship) I love when the man appears to be a chauvinist. My Master will tell you and he really is... a feminist. He loves women, he respects them, he loves working for and with them and believes that women should be treated equally in all aspects.... but in our dynamic and relationship, he's a total chauvinist, a dude, a tad "overbearing". He treats me like his "little lady". I find it sooooooo sexy. My aesthetic has always been of a 50's housewife. Wear an apron and have dinner on the table at 5 sharp, meet him with a drink at the door and always look perfect when he sees me, style. Don't get me wrong.... I love the kinky shit.... the juxtaposition between being his lady and being a dirty slut is probably my favorite thing of all. A hand offered to help me onto a curb is the same hand that will tangle into my hair to drag me across the room by it. Does that make him less of a feminist, nope... he gives me what I need and what I want, but still believes that I deserve equality. In our relationship I've laid down my all at his feet and have never felt regret. He makes the decisions and I follow orders. We know our roles and I flourish in mine. I was reading someone's post about 'protection' and it resonated with me as a submissive. The need to make sure I am always safe, even if it just means to know that I'm off the roads and safe at home.... could be construed to the outside world as a bit chauvinistic, but to me it's love.
So I tell you all of this so that you understand. I don't hate men.... I love them, especially mine. I love that he's kinda a "dude", but it's always with respect to who I am as a person. Do good (or bad) things, all consensual of course. If you are a unsafe or predatory, you'll get called out for it. If it gets me banned, so be it. I've been a member here for awhile, I have a lot to offer the community in education and support.... I care about people.... and I reach out and help when most people will just ignore and live their lives. I always want to "help" anyone who needs it.
Just as you all say.... this is MY blog, I'll write what I want. You don't like it, don't read it. Isn't that what you are all saying? The hilarity and sheer irony in it all... truly! "Stop blogging about what other people blog about". We are all adults. If you are ok with predatory behavior from anyone, even just the casual mention of it, then I don't want to be your friend. I'm at peace with my decision. It's sad for me, as I feel as though the world is so cold and cruel already and we need as much love and support as possible. I believe in giving folks as many chances as it takes until it becomes toxic for me to continue (just ask my addict mother).... and I've hit a wall.
I wish you peace in your journeys to find those that make you happy and you find happiness in yourselves. Even those that don't like me, peace and happiness to you...
Edited to add: I will no longer be reading your blogs if your shit has triggered me in the past. I'm working on peace and a real life future with the woman I love... I don't have time nor the inclination for your posturing and bullshit.
