Pay no attention to that person behind the curtain.....
This is probably a "hot take" but I'm throwing the issue to the wolves..... Just because someone tags themselves a dominant, does NOT mean they are right all the time. Also, agreeing and being pukingly sweet to someone just because they claim to be a dominant does not make you a desirable submissive. I often see posts from dominants, that frankly are questionable and there are without fail several posts from submissives validating some bullshit. I am not always right and I’m ok with someone disagreeing with me, especially if they can explain why (and it makes sense). If you post something that is wrong, dangerous, morally bankrupt or total BS, I’m not going to stroke your ego and write my own dialogue in my head, trying to validate your crap and make you into an imaginary hero. I’d rather someone dislike what I say than for me to wonder if turning a blind eye puts someone else in danger.
I used to hide my head in the sand and believe that we should all get along. The FLDS women are told to “keep sweet” and that’s something I adapted in my own life... but after years of screaming inside my head... I finally decided that I would never be that person again. The funny thing is... I’m nice. Really nice. As I’m preparing to move away I have realized how many lives I have impacted in the nearly 10 years I’ve lived in Atlanta. Being nice isn’t enough now, and you have to stand for what’s right. And many of you probably don’t believe that I’m nice anyway based off my angry rants. If that’s you, you’re wrong about me and let someone ever slight you and I’ll be in your corner, just as I would anyone else.
it’s ok to have a backbone... yes even to a dominant. Intelligence, morals and common sense are very attractive qualities in a submissive... it isn’t just all about how good you suck dick. Don’t eat a salad (unless you love salad) on the first date! Challenge their minds, share experiences and disagree. It’s ok, you’re not a mindless robot and trust me they don’t want one of those anyway. . And when it’s time to negotiate... please don’t say “whatever you want” because you just want to please them.. that’s how you become unhappy & unsatisfied.
