Our third has a primary. This person has a personality disorder and addiction issues. Our third doesnt see it.
At its core their relationship is very abusive.
Often that abuse spillls over into how they act with us.
When our third spends a lot of time with their primary - their behavior markedly changes.
They get manic, defensive, fearful.
Thats what happened last Friday and spilled into Saturday. Their primary went nutz with the drug seeking which ended in a 5 hour drive as they went from dispensary to dispensary. The primary was unfit to drive.
That being said- its their choice to stay in the relationship.
It boils down to how much more tolerance I have.
For right now I am going to keep pulling away. Keep moving forward. Less time. Less talking. More working on the self. More filling the time and emotion with change. Get myself strong enough to be able to stay away when the inevitable break happens.
Thank you everyone for listening.
This has been a long journey.
