When I was a young muggle, living a plain vanilla existence, I used to think that I was pretty liberated sexually and like most young men, believed I had good technique and was probably the best lover in the world. (cringe now) After all, the women never moaned. And that’s where the problem lies. Ok, yes, I did make them moan, a little, but never made them scream like wailing banshees and collapse in a heap of orgasmic mess. Oh god, I cannot believe I am baring this side of me in public. My salvation was kink and BDSM, I needed to get that in quickly to save my ego from being scrambled any more. I am happy to say I have evolved considerably and if I ever meet my younger self I will be sure to give him a jolly good slap.
We all have varying sex lives of different experiences and quality, or not, with different people in our lives. Some are unforgettable, some are best forgotten. My epiphany moment and salvation actually came some 20 years ago in the shape of leggy, slim brunette called “Tracey” ( Name changed to protect her identity should she read this, which is unlikely)
I met Tracey on AOL in the days when you could find and chat with other AOL members locally. She was a chirpy girl and we played Literati for many hours online. We were even Stevens at this game, but she drove me nuts when she won because she would not let it lie and she would gloat lots, which was terribly bothersome, her knowing I am a bad loser and all. What has this got to do with Pussy Worshipping ? It is just a little foray into the antecedence that led to me to life of Kink that I live now.
See, Tracey was a Kinkster, way before Fet, CS and the ilk. Indeed, the “tinterweb thingy” (Yorkshire dialect required) was very new at that time and Kink had not yet found it’s web presence.
So after a few weeks of online geekiness, Tracey and I decided to meet for a drink, it was a natural step. I have to say at this point, in those days I was a cocky bastard. Mostly more of a bastard these days, less cocky, but certainly more self assured with a quiet smouldering inner confidence.
Anyway, strolled into the designated pub where we were to meet with my “cocky bastard swagger” and I was instantly drawn to this beautiful, slender, tall woman who I instantly knew to be my date. I tried to remain cocky, but her beauty knocked me for six and I am sure that sweet mouth could utter such words that my strength would fail me. We sat, we talked, well she did, I kind of stammered and dribbled, and gradually the initial feelings of “ i am not worthy” were replaced by fascination as the girl I knew from our online scrabble like gaming was opening up and gushing forth with all this unfamiliar language about her kinks and fetishes.
I was totally clueless as to what she was talking about at the time, a little intimidated, but glued to her every word. She talked about such taboo things as CP, hair pulling, forced blow jobs, being tied down and whipped, then fucked like a whore, being ordered and controlled. I was dazed, my mind was swimming in a state of confusion and a dark desire to taste all of these delights that this stupidly hot chic was sharing with me.
Save to say at this point, we went on to have many, many adventures and I was introduced to a new kind of sex and way of thinking. The old way of cramming every sexual act into a 20 minute session 2-3 times a week was obsolete. I had discovered play scenes, themes, role play, kink, impact play, fetish etc. I did not discover the meaning of D/s at this point, just that sex could be a lot more than a quick shuffle when your balls are blue.
I digress, so let me come back to point. I learned from Tracey that each sex act could be extracted from vanilla way and approach, elongated, focused on and developed into a main event in its own right. Pussy Worship is just one prime example of how to take a single sex act and turn it into a pleasure bound marathon that ends in orgasmic heaven for the girl. And a smug smile on my face.
Tracey and I ended after about a year, but she is one of those I will never forget and I often wonder where she is and what she is doing.
So Pussy Worship is just one aspect of sex play that leaves the narrative of vanilla sex and becomes a delight, a treat, a heavenly experience for both Dom and sub. As a Dom, I get my Yaya’s from making my sub happy mentally, physically and sexually. I am not being topped here, I am very much the Dom, it is my will, I like this and I will take my pleasure from what I am doing as I see fit. Yes, she gets to cum a few times too, bajynga !.
Pussy worshiping goes beyond just clumsily eating a girl out like some spotty hormonal teenager munching as though this is the first and last pussy he will ever see.
Pussy Worship is an art, it is about celebrating that most wonderful and magical place between a girls legs. It’s about rejoicing in her exhibitionism, sexual liberation and complete explicit pleasure. Read and think about each word, each action, each part. Only do this to a woman if you are prepared and ready. You must not make a mistake. Take time, research the subject from other sources and improve technique where you can. When you are ready, begin.
This next few hours is a celebration of, and pleasuring of your woman's pussy, purely for the sake of that pleasure and nothing else. There is no cock play, just pussy.
Encourage your woman/sub to relax into the moment and allow herself to be the goddess of this experience.
Start with some gentle shoulder and neck rubbing and kissing. Let her respond purely to the touch. The only expectation of the girl is that she surrenders her pussy to the experience and allows it to feel all of the subtlety of the touch, texture, pressure, rubbing, licking, gazing and all of the nuances of the encounter that is about to unfold on her mound of venus.
After the shoulder and neck rub lay her laid back and spread her legs open. If she is wearing underwear, remove it. She should be naked only from the waist down, the focus is her pussy, not entire nakedness.
So begins the “gazing” stage of the play. What follows is a long and drawn out adventure of pleasure giving, not to be rushed at all. Attention first focuses on what I call the road to heaven, the fleshy inner thighs, which are stroked with a variety of pressures, all pleasant, but the objective is to sensitise this area which makes her pussy feel even more exposed and on view.
Her legs must be as wide open as possible, but comfortable. You, the worshipper are gazing and familiarising yourself with each fold of skin of this uniquely beautiful pussy, each wrinkle, each bump, the outer lips, the shape of her vulva, labia, slit.
Take your time to enjoy the view of this delightful sight, voicing your appreciation occasionally, reassuring her that you are enjoying this too. Tell her to spread her pussy open for you, exposing the inner cunt in as slutty a way possible. Gaze intently on her wetness, the pink inner flesh of her love organ. This is important for both, as she feels the excitement of exposure and vulnerability with no barriers or inhibitions. She is on view, open, in the moment with you, allowing you to experience her in this most intimate way.
The stroking action now moves from her thighs to the mound and outer labia. As much as possible keep eye contact with the each other, and hold her hand. Let your fingertips dance together and heighten the senses. The stroking, using fingers now moves to the inner lips and clitoris area. This is important because this is where the gazing becomes more intense, which is the "admiring" stage. You Looking into each others eyes whilst a fingertip strokes her clit is intense for both of you. You connect in the most erotic and deeply sensual way.
Watch for every little sign that you are pleasuring her and intensify that pleasure more and more based on the feedback you are getting. Encourage her to express and articulate what she feels, what she likes, what she enjoys most. Talk about the experience and be vocal. Encourage her to moan if she wants to, or to respond by moving her hips if she feels like it. Open up to each other, get lost in the experience. Immerse yourselves in each other.
Spread her pussy open and examine every millimetre of the hot wetness before you and then begin show appreciation with gentle kisses all around the pussy. No tongue yet, just appreciation and kisses. Now comes the part where she participates a little more. Get her to hold her pussy open so that you can see deep inside. Kiss her more feverishly now, with a little more pressure and for a few moments longer on each part, like the kiss of a lover, but on her pussy. Look at her in the eye as you do this to her pussy.
Like yoga, there is no rush from one part to the next, the experience is meant to be unhurried and supposed to heighten the intensity of the eventual orgasm that you are going to lead her to.
Prop her up so that she can see in detail what is happening to her pussy and encourage her to watch. Rest your mouth on her pussy, let your lips connect with the soft tissue of her pussy lips. Feel the texture, suck the skin into your mouth and run your tongue over them. Then attach your mouth to her pussy and tongue her deeply, slowly and deliberately, all over, inside and out, at all times you are holding hands and looking deep into each others eyes. “French kiss” her pussy lovingly and passionately for as long as your tongue can hold out. Taste her, appreciate her, love her pussy. Taste her more, she is yours, feel the juices from her pussy as they drip down your chin. Lick her and look at her.
Your tongue deep inside her pussy, eyes locked in a deep gaze, you are connected in an amazing and beautiful way. Feel each other as deeply as possible and as the tongue will go. Taste the heavenly juices. Warm and ignite all of the nerves in her pussy with gentle movements of the lips and tongue. This should go on for some time, and it is important that you take your time. Don't rush and don’t stop looking into each other eyes. Let your fingertips touch again, they have a language all of their own, eyes, fingers, tongue.
Now for some finger manipulation. Insert a finger or two and allow her to enjoy the feeling of you moving in and out. Use the juices to rub over her clit, then back inside. Slowly, don't go fast at this point. Rub the “A” spot first (see last blog post) , then the “G” spot, this is not about orgasm yet. Hold the pussy open with one hand and rub all around the outside, the clit, the lips, wetting your fingers now and again. Put a hand over the pussy and massage it whole, feeling the heat and wetness. Tell her what you feel and how much you like it. Ask her if she is enjoying it.
Use both hands to open her up and begin to lick and nibble on her clit, gently, but with a little more pressure. Her clit and labia should be swollen. We could be at least an hour in by now, but who is watching the clock ? Not me.
Now it is time to begin to bring her to orgasm and give her release. But control it, take her to the edge, then draw back a little and a few times, feel her thrusts and respond. Let her push her pussy onto your face and fingers and rub it up and down your tongue, which nows flicks the clit more quickly.
Insert fingers and finger fuck her whilst flicking your tongue over her clit. Respond to her writhing and moaning, now allowing her to go to orgasm, and take her there with all the love for her pussy that you can muster. Rub her ‘G” spot as you tongue her clit, stimulate more than just one area.
Delight, rejoice and be grateful for each moment that you spend worshipping that pussy and showing this with the action of your mouth and fingers. Be part of the moment when she cums and let her take as much time as needed to allow the intense feelings to wash over her. Rest your tongue on her clit and feel it twitch, responding with gentle pressure, not too much at this point. As she cums suck her clit into your mouth very gently, allow the gentle pressure to do its work, then thrust fingers deep inside her and let her muscles squeeze them.
Take your mouth off her, cup her pussy with one hand and feel its heat. Gently rub, not too much pressure, she will be sensitive. Now draw back, massage her thighs and allow her to enjoy the final moments of orgasm. Her pussy should be red and swollen, and very wet. You have worshipped pussy. Hope you enjoy, both !
Sometimes I will make the experience last longer by taking breaks for drinks or a snack. I always make sure the girl keeps her legs open and pussy on view, always. You may wish to stroke it whilst snacking or drinking, keep up the pleasure giving. It’s up to you. Mix it up. Other times I will introduce toys, especially the magic wand, which always leads to brain rattling orgasms if used properly.
Above all, enjoy.
I will soon post other scenes, such as Cock worship, Forced eruptive orgasms,