As I updated my profile, I added a section on my education and the master’s program I was working on. I have spent years in some of the most dysfunctional relationships and my goal is to stop the cycle. I’ve been in and out of the lifestyle for many years and I have come to realize that BDSM provides some of the best structure for a healthy and long lasting relationship.
The emphasis on communication and honesty is paramount to my belief. I also think that the roles we take play a large part and that, if executed properly, there are no false pretenses or unspoken expectations that go unfulfilled.
A good Dom/Domme puts so much of themself into caring for Their sub. I am certain it takes tons of energy and time and often, a lot of patience. This kind of dedication to the relationship is needed; even in the most vanilla of situations. Even when I turn down offers, I always am appreciative of the time One spends, getting to know me...beyond my picture.
As a sub...I almost feel lazy in comparison. Any other subs get that? Of course, I am willing to put in as much as I get and it’s always my desire to go above and beyond...
This mutual agreement between the two roles, and the willingness to “do the work”... is what makes it such a success. (In my opinion).
I was considering hypothesizing a theory in couples counseling based on the D/s dynamics because it just seems so valuable. In my research, I found this article where a therapist actually has done just that!
I just thought I’d share! :)
