Between the time I dropped out of college and joined the Army, I had a few light experiences involving some bondage but nothing long term or very impressionable. I knew I enjoyed being bound and restrained.
Once I enlisted and completed basic training, I moved on to my advanced individual training (AIT). I was studying to become an electronic warfare repair technician in the military intelligence school. At that time, the school was located in Ft. Devens, Massachusetts, and the course was about a year long. It was like college in many ways.
I met a guy there who shared my nerdy love of Dungeons and Dragons. We hit it off instantly. He was extremely charming and he would sing to me. He was also extremely passionate.
He and I would have these small power exchanges... It was more or less a staring competition to see which one of us would give in to the other first. This would start in the middle of our Dungeons and Dragons campaign, much to our party member’s ire... and last for hours... until we were alone in the game room, attacking each other on the table.
We could not get enough of each other. Every spare moment. I had never had a guy perform oral sex on me quite like he did... ever. This was a man who thoroughly enjoyed what he was doing.
I discovered that he was a little sadistic... but only mildly, and it went well with my mild masochistic tendencies at the time. I enjoyed small amounts of pain (still do), as long as it is coupled with equal amounts of pleasure.
I think he is the only guy I’ve ever allowed to smack me in the face. Just enough to sting. He was the first to ever torture my nipples.
This still was not a D/s relationship and I still had no idea what that really was at the time. I think it is interesting to point out the way I would be so stubborn when it came to giving in. We would stare for hours. Sometimes he would come really close to kissing me... He would be a breath away from my lips just staring into my eyes. Then he’d back away.
He left Massachusetts before I did and with his departure we really didn’t stay in touch after that. I came to find out he was more of a “player” than anything. I don’t think I was all that attached to him, to be honest. Our tiny fleeting “thing” lasted mere months. Like two. It was great fun though.