From the Tower

Rejection

4 years ago. October 6, 2020 at 11:07 PM

This may be the confidence speaking, but I'm perfectly okay with rejection. If someone tells me they are not interested or that I'm not their type, I move on. If I get no reply to a simple "Hey," I move on. To me, it's okay. I know that not everyone in the world is going to like me or fall madly in love with me. Now I need to clarify, rejection does not equal being ostracized. Being ostracized is unbelievably painful, and I don't wish that on anyone. However, if it's just one or two people here or there (and not a whole community), I do not take it to heart.

That being said, I do not understand some of the Doms on this site. The subs will know which ones I am talking about. The ones that send 15 messages are all entitled, "submit to me" or the ones that write "looking for online fun ;)". Sometimes I'll be surprised with paragraphs upon paragraphs that have been copied and pasted from one sub to another. Do they not realize we talk to each other? But my favorite is "Are you still there? You never respond".

Well, of course, I don't dummy. I say right in my bio, "Right now, I'm just looking for a community, but I'm always down to chat." Meaning I'm not looking to "submit", I'm not looking for "online fun", and no, I won't respond because I know exactly what you're trying to do. If you want to chat, maybe ask some questions? Or tell me about yourself. Because frankly, I'm not particularly eager to talk to people who only have one thing on their minds. Maybe I'm asking for too much, but I like people to be complex and not so one dimensional. I mean, seriously, you're a person, not a fictionalized rom-com character.

In the meantime, please don't get upset with me for your unwillingness to read my profile. When I am looking for a Dom, I will say, and I will be more than happy to chat about being a great match. But if I'm not ready... so why are you pushing?

Devotedsub(sub female){His} - Tell it sweetheart. Absolutely 100 percent spot on. I love your blog.

4 years ago

Princess95(sub female) - awe thanks! I really appreciate it!

4 years ago

forgedbyfire - Agree with all of what you said. For some of the ones who actually read my profile, I wonder if it’s the thrill of the chase? Are they thinking, “She said she’s not looking, but I’m a strict dom alpha male and I can change her mind with all the testosterone oozing through my nearly blank profile.”🤔

I am also here for community, but sometimes it

4 years ago

forgedbyfire - Sometimes it’s hard to make friends.

4 years ago

The Kinky Poet(other male) - Im not a Dom just a poet who writes erotica i know nothing of these things all I'd say is NEVER SELL YOURSELF SHORT. BE STRONG BE BEAUTIFUL AND BE YOU.
Love and light
Ron xx

4 years ago

Sweet Ginger(sub female){⚓ } - Perfect! Only problem is those who don't read profiles, usually don't read blogs either. Errrr! At least you got to vent and we've all been there! One can hope, maybe one of those who scroll profiles, without reading will get it....we can always hope. :)

4 years ago

petiteluna(sub female) - Here, here! 👏🏼

Even when I put short bullet points up in the beginning of my profile, I’m still getting the copied & pasted rhetoric 🙄

4 years ago

petiteluna(sub female) - And your avatar of Bubbles is so cute! 🥺 💞

4 years ago

Princess95(sub female) - Thanks! And yeah it's very annoying to deal with. I'm glad though I'm not the only one who finds it that way.

4 years ago

lifeofdom(dom male) - I'll say this from "the other side" if I'm allowed the expression : many times I hear subs complain about this exact issue.. And I definetly see the point there.. Here are my 5 cents( pennies) on this particular issue: I too see too many subs copying and pasting what they read from other subs :" oh I am terrible about taking about myself, I don't really know what to say about my personality, but I really want this, and this, and that in a dom, he has to be this way, and this way, and totally read my mind and know how to understand me and how to dominate me.. And for him to be a dom he needs to so this, and this and that..
Not going Into specifics.. But.. Does it sound familiar? To me it does.. So.. To sumarize.: both sides encounter very, very frustrating people, that either can't read a profile, or can't write one properly themselves.. On this issue: personally I respect everyone, never to approach when subs/ people are not looking or are already owned.. We are living in a society where choices are to be respected.. Being part of the bdsm community for some is a sign é to ignore those choices.. But I'm guessing those, get shot down more often than they can get somewhere..
I've enjoyed reading every comment on this discussion.. Shows that unfortunately.. Some can't be bothered to respect others.. A minority without a doubt but still having impact on others unfortunately.

3 years ago

Sweet Ginger(sub female){⚓ } - I'm not sure why alerts to this post are showing up, almost a year later. After refreshing my memory by rereading this. I would like to say, thank you for sharing. This is your blog, you have a right to express yourself and your feelings. Especially because anyone that spends a minute on this site knows this is a very common occurrence, unfortunately.

I often find it very amusing when an individual attempts to reject someone that she wouldn't even give the time of day too..:) I want to begin with gaslighters are cowards that personally I don't find attractive. This blog wasn't directed towards anyone in particular so no individual needs to feel offended or make excuses for the behavior expressed in the blog and if compelled to, makes you question why. With that said, thank you again for sharing. :)

3 years ago

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From the Tower

Rejection

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