Firecracker Diaries - A combination of stories, random thoughts and an appreciation log of life with Daddy

jaceykayco​(switch female)​{Not} - One thing that always helped me for those times of separation was to keep a journal while I was dropping. We had a shared google doc where I could write down all my feelings and what I liked or didn’t like with the scene or whatever your term of choice is.

It helped him too because he could see what could be adapted or what he could do more of. I also had a self care kit with my favorite fuzzy slippers, a cozy robe, a snack or two, bottled water and something that smelled like him. For me it was a shirt. It helped me get grounded and felt like I had a piece of him there. Small comforts can make a big difference.

HGB​(sub female)​{Scottish M} - I've done some intense impact with 2 different people and neither effected me like rope does. I know with rope (self ties, no rigger) I can't drive for at least 45 minutes after, need fluids and snack after, but the next day I'm a mess. I'm extremely emotional. I've tried chocolate, my fuzzy blanket, rest. Nothing helps, I just ride it out. So I know not to do it when I have to accomplish anything the next day.

littleMagpie​(sub female) - We have routines together that help but mostly time together helps.
But I’m apparently a bit odd in that the whole snuggly, eat chocolate etc thing does nothing for me.
I tend to need loud, bouncy music to dance around my house to, and to sing along with. I need things to do that don’t let my mind wander too much. Sometimes it’s a struggle to get up n do that but that is completely what helps me with drop. Or getting outside for a walk.

Curiousmind​(sub female) - I hear you! This topic is so close to my heart...

Sub drop... not a pleasant feeling but unavoidable for me too and I needed to learn how to manage it so it wouldn’t last long, so i could come out of it faster and with minimal impact.

What helps me:
- writing down what i feel...my emotions, my feelings
- chilling/resting, taking it easy with daily activities as I can’t lie it interferes with my productivity and unfortunately slows everything down
- talking to my Master- helps the most and the sooner i have a chance to talk to him, to feel his presence the quicker i come out of the drop
- reading from him if he is not available to be on camera/phone helps a lot to

The most important thing, i rely on him, i need him to come back to normal me. Without him it takes much longer and it is a very painful process. On the positive note, I believe because i go through “lows” so intensely, i experience the “highs” so intensely too as i live my relationship on the very deep emotional level.
I am grateful for all the “good” and “bad” moments in my dynamic because in the reality the bad- the sub drops are just the way our minds process things so it is nothing to be scared off or be annoyed by. It is just the way our bodies tell us to adapt, to slow down for a certain period of time in order for our brains/minds to be revived/refreshed/renewed and be ready for the next wonderful and exciting session with our dominant/master.

Thank you for rising such an important topic in your blog.