I just listened to a podcast on sexuality and society that discussed the various ways in which sexuality has been controlled throughout history. Have you heard this quote before, “Everything is about sex, except sex, that’s about power” ?(Oscar Wilde is said to be the author of this quote, although it has been disputed).
I don’t personally agree with this quote entirely, not everything is about sex!! BUT I do believe that sex plays a very big role in the way in which we perceive ourselves, how others perceive us and ultimately can be very powerful in our lives. I think we assign certain roles to ourselves and others based around our sexuality.
The podcast mentioned various ways throughout history to present day in which our sexuality has been controlled...
Cleopatra being forced to marry brothers in order to keep the power in the family...
Homosexual couples have been unable to marry lawfully or adopt children..The power of the law shutting out the ability for people to live, love and start families the way they wish.
It also mentioned the illegalization of abortion. (Which is left for each person to interpret personally, as it is a very personal topic).
The idea of power and sex has fascinated me for as long as I can remember thinking about sex...I consider myself to be new to the lifestyle (with minimal, although profound experience). I’m really just grasping my understanding, opinions and desires and how i fit into the complex and varied bdsm scene.
And I definitely believe there is a correlation between power and sex that exists in both vanilla and bdsm lifestyles.
...I’m not sure when, how or why I became sexually attracted to power. But I do know that it is deeply rooted in who I am. Initially, when I joined this site I was very confident (I thought) in the fact that I strictly wanted D/s in the bedroom, not to be carried over into other aspects of my life. But I am learning that my submission is much deeper than that. I enjoy the fantasies I have of pleasing a Dom in other ways..I feel like I really am a sub at heart and that I’m really just discovering the tip of the iceberg.
