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4 years ago. May 19, 2019 at 12:12 PM

Hello beautiful, sexy, wonderful and kinky friends and strangers 💕

 

What is your definition of spirituality?

(this blog post is partially inspired by a forum post a while back regarding spirituality and BDSM).

 

I understand that the concept of spirituality varies from person to person. I also understand that spirituality and religion are not mutually exclusive. You may experience or hold strong beliefs in both, neither, or one or the other.

spirituality to me is the feeling of “oneness” or intense connection. This connection creates a temporary feeling of a higher state of existence and it can manifest in many ways.

My real life examples:

Giving birth to a child and experiencing pure and intense love and connection.

 

Pushing my body during a race (I used to be a runner), the runners high and elated happiness you can receive after pushing your body to its limit.

 

Yoga is spiritual to me as it creates a fluid connection between my mind and body and calms the relentless chatter inside my brain.

Traveling to different cities or countries (especially when traveling alone) and fully immersing myself into the culture and beliefs, living in the moment is one of the greatest feelings I have ever experienced. I have never felt more connected to our earth and the community of individuals in it.

 

all of these examples are near and dear to my heart. But what about in BDSM? Does spirituality exist in a D/s relationship?

In my (somewhat seldom) experiences, the answer is yes! It is absolutely present. And in my personal opinion and experiences I would say that submissives would more easily and readily feel the essence of spirituality during a play session when they slip into subspace. A D/s bond can be a very deep and meaningful connection. Both members contributing efforts, knowing that the partner doesn’t simply want or expect this but that they need and crave it. When my needs and cravings are satisfied I feel a connection (sense of oneness) and calmness, with my mind, body and partner.

 

my needs and cravings were being met (to an extent) but just recently were take away, cold turkey 😬And it has inspired me to write on the topic. Dominants please be gentle and cognizant that the role you play in the life of those who submit to you is probably more deep and meaningful than you realize.💕

 

 

Morley​(sub female){Max Sterne} - Lotus, this is such a great blog.... Your comparisons of that feeling of connectiveness - oneness! Awesome ❤️

There is nothing more Beautiful than that feeling with another becoming ONE.... I am sorry yours was taken away, and abruptly. Shame on the person who did that. I would like to think you dodged a bullet, as I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and your true ONE is out there. 🤗

To the Dom/mes who read this, please "hear" the message being said. We as subs give ourselves to you, wholly, fully, completely. Be gentle and kind, because after all that is your job, duty and you should know better.
4 years ago
Lotus​(sub female) - Thank you for the compliment 🙂and the other person is a truly great person I just regret how it ended!
4 years ago
Lotus​(sub female) - Nice to hear how it is from a Dom’s perspective. Ahh..that feeling of safety and security is THE BEST!
4 years ago
SchrodingersDinosaur​(switch female) - Yes, yes, yes, yes!!! Thanks for sharing Lotus. I'll glom on to HeWhoHasNo's sentiment in saying that it's not just the submissive that touches the divine in a good pairing.
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Lotus​(sub female) - Love to hear the Dom,Domme or Switch perspective, as I have no experience in that as have wondered what it feels like.
4 years ago
Lotus​(sub female) - And have*
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