4 years ago. August 11, 2020 at 6:54 PM
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What Do I Want From A Sub?
When a woman submits to a man, it's the most precious gift she can give. Herself. Unreservedly. The man has to respect and honor that gift above all else. Even if he respects nothing else in the world, he must respect the woman in his care. It's his sworn duty to protect, honor and cherish his submissive. To take care of her and provide a safe haven. Someone who would put his own needs above his woman's is no man.”― Maya Banks, Sweet Addiction
Feileks(switch female)
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Oh, I've seen him before. I follow him on Fetlife. *subscribes*
4 years ago
shesosweet(sub female)
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This is SO important and really matches my experience searching for a Dom. The distinctions are significant!
Also, I stopped halfway so need to finish but maybe he touches on this as well-
It begs a similar question of subs, doesn't it? Who and how many truly want to be dominated?
When I receive messages that seem like a greeting you would get on a dating site, I don't respond. "Hey, how are you beautiful?" Is not how a Dom greets a potential sub. Often a profile speaks volumes as well about everything I need to know to be NOT interested.
I mean no harm in the critique, I just believe being a true Dom is a rare thing and really once you have seen it you can't mistake play games for the real deal. You just know in the way they speak.
If that part doesn't click, then the rest doesn't matter. You can give a hard spanking and maybe even control someone but it doesn't make you a Dom.
I think the same goes for subs but for us perhaps it's a little easier as, submission is potentially a more common trait that just needs developing. This is what real Doms know how to do. Sounds like that's part of what he was suggesting in the video as well.
Finding it is the hard part.
Also, I stopped halfway so need to finish but maybe he touches on this as well-
It begs a similar question of subs, doesn't it? Who and how many truly want to be dominated?
When I receive messages that seem like a greeting you would get on a dating site, I don't respond. "Hey, how are you beautiful?" Is not how a Dom greets a potential sub. Often a profile speaks volumes as well about everything I need to know to be NOT interested.
I mean no harm in the critique, I just believe being a true Dom is a rare thing and really once you have seen it you can't mistake play games for the real deal. You just know in the way they speak.
If that part doesn't click, then the rest doesn't matter. You can give a hard spanking and maybe even control someone but it doesn't make you a Dom.
I think the same goes for subs but for us perhaps it's a little easier as, submission is potentially a more common trait that just needs developing. This is what real Doms know how to do. Sounds like that's part of what he was suggesting in the video as well.
Finding it is the hard part.
4 years ago
shesosweet(sub female)
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**The 80/20 rule for both genders makes perfect sense. He is right to call BS on the disparity seen online. I had been wondering about this myself.
4 years ago
Sasa(dom female)
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Only one point... those successful leaders in the business world are rarely doms... romances are not reality 😄. Only my little opinion, but I haven't met one CEO who was, but a few who enjoyed to be a bottom.
4 years ago