So, i wasn't planning on making another blog so soon, but i felt inspired and i hope it will match my theme of being thought-provoking and helpful :)
You can only change yourself. You can't make someone see things your way. You can't force someone to believe what you believe. Even if they say they agree with you because you have broken their will, you have not changed them, their heart or their mind. Even with real life torture all you can do is encourage them to say what you want to hear them say. Confessions and promises made under duress are hollow and meaningless.
So i just wonder, why do i see so many people try to do this? No matter how right you think you are, no matter how true something is for you... you will never be able to force someone to believe the same thing you do.
Truly, the only thing in this world you can control is yourself. If you want to see a change, change yourself. If you are right, others will choose to go your way too, because they will see the difference you make. It is impossible for us to perfect ourselves, but, if you can help others while attempting to fix yourself, then that is a good thing.
Another helpful thing to understand is, just because it's right for you, doesn't mean it's right for everyone. People's needs, and situations are different and everyone experiences life and love in fantastic new ways every day.
Heres the take away. When you stop trying to force everyone to be exactly like you, most often, you are able to relax. The black and white dot you were staring so hard at that it gave you an aneurism suddenly expands and evolves into a huge canvas of colorful artistic beauty!
This is not saying "never discuss anything." And it's not saying "never express your opinion" but it is saying "allow everyone their opinions, because you can't change them."
My last thing i want to express... my opinion, is no better than anyone elses. We are all equally as important and equally as inconsequential to the universe. My opinion may be the most popular one, or it may be my opinion alone. These things being said, my opinion means exactly as much and as little as yours. Because of that, i always do my best (im not perfect) to never belittle or make you feel small, unimportant, or uneducated because your opinions are different than mine. If you express your opinion, i may or may not want to express mine. If we compare differences and discuss it, that is good, it helps us to spiritually, emotionally and socially mature! 😄 If we choose not to discuss it, that is fine too! No one has to convert to anyone else's opinion. Noone can force someone to adopt an idea and i will never try to change your mind. Because the only one who can change your mind, is you.
I hope this was both challenging and empowering :)
