Plain Jane

Larsapan​(dom female) - 🤞🏼🧿🤗

Sir Don​(dom male){Nt looking} - Sometimes a unexpected helping hand comes from the least thought of places.
If he is receptive of the person he was working with then it could have a positive thing for him
I am glad things went well for him.

lambsone - All I can say is. How wonderful for you and your son. And kudos to you for taking some hard personal steps to give your son an opportunity to fly.

Wandarae{Not lookin} - Thank you. But all the kudos go to the Dom who took a chance on my son.

Literate Lycan​(dom male) - Often, for a good man, just seeing the positive impact they've left behind is the gratitude they see and feel and don't require any acknowledgment.

It's the same for a good Dominant with anyone (especially their submissive). They don't "need" a verbal acknowledgement of gratitude. Just observing they may have had a positive impact on the submissive is the benefit and blessing that makes them feel whole.

flitter'fly​(sub female) - A man never truly feels like himself until he has a reason to be a man. Hencevwork, and also, to work with One who values the help in which Your Boy could bring.
Looks like a win win win.
For a Dominant had a chance to now bond with You but also Your Boy. That makes for Men.
And You had the rewards of a mother's l9ve and to see how You and Your child should be treated by a Man.

You and i and allot of others have been through much of the same things.
There are Real Men still out there, allow that in when possable.
Don't allow past trauma for You or Your Son to keep You locked in that trauma.
i myself am fighting demons everyday to get past that past trauma.
Fight Hard You are worthy.
Don't fight so hard to push ot away.
And now for me to take my own advice. Lol
Congratulations every small step is a victory.
ff... :):):)

flitter'fly​(sub female) - Sorry about the spelling.
I need to
Slow
Down.
Lol 😆

A Minx - Wonderful news you are sharing Wandarae! I'm so happy for all of you (your Son, You and the "Mr. Wonderful" Dom)! Keep that momentum going, keep on building upon it right on into July and banish those fears! Keeping all of you close in thought, enjoy these hard fought victories along the way too, keep on going and don't give up! 💐

Wandarae{Not lookin} - July is a whole different story it involves the ex. Also family expectations. It also challenges the love of two brothers……. It also shows the desperation of said one man and to what length he is willing to do. Will he go overboard to win one son and lose the other even further even to the point of death.

A Minx - dearest Wandarae, I feel for you and your family! I may understand, just a bit, of what you are going through as I lost my (13mos. older) Brother first to drugs and then to suicide, we were always thisclose, it destroyed my family and left (almost 25 years ago to this very day) still so many unanswered questions in the aftermath and loss of my beautiful, intelligent, thoughtful and very talented friend and Big Brother.

My suggestion to you is to prepare for battle (even if it's only on behalf of your Son but REALLY it's on behalf of your entire family and for YOU too but the current fire in your belly is for your Son - and rightfully so). Every single one of you survived that old dynamic (and it is a dynamic) up till now. So, be prepared and be caring but completely (as much as you can be) unemotional in your absolutely non-negotiable requirements going into those July events. Before you get into anything with anyone (your ex and/or your other children) call it out, be plain, be simple, be clear for whatever the expectations are for July (and in this way people just CANNOT be left to their own perception, interpretation, imagination or on their own past bad behaviors, they MUST then be on their very best)! It's all spelled out, it's made very clear, it's all out in the open, there is nothing to hide and there are no hidden agendas that way!

And, who gives 2 poos what anyone "thinks" at this time, this is a matter of LIFE this is no dress rehearsal and we may not get a second chance at this (unless anyone here one thecage really knows whats behind that curtain... of life), this is no beauty, no popularity and certainly no pissing contest. Do NOT let past issues, concerns or feelings color what is going on in the HERE and NOW!

You, my dear, are on a mission, be strong, be direct, call it out for what you want or need for your Son at this moment in time. And, if people on all sides of the family cannot respect whatever is needed at this (small blip in a) moment of time, then FUCK them. Continue to do what is right and if need be then don't go, don't show up, don't engage, don't continue to live in that past... life. Keep moving on, do what is best and do what is right (for right NOW), don't look back and lastly do not have ANY regrets!

ok, stepping down from this soapbox...
Please take good care, I'm rooting for You and your Son! 😁

Sir Don​(dom male){Nt looking} - I agree with this ⬆️⬆️
There are those that will have your back no matter what

Wandarae{Not lookin} - Thank you. I have a plan of action I have called in reinforcements and operations protect cute baby. Now to make sure I still don’t lose another one fifth of heart because of this action.

I have learned in this journey I am strong. I am capable and I am most importantly not going to lose to that POS. He created this but I won’t let him start construction of his glass house inside my castle. I am invisible and I lurk the outer walls of castle.

But most importantly I am not afraid to go to jail to protect what is mine. I’ve trained for years now to never let him return this family to what once was. Physically I’m not scared I fact I double dog dare him to try, I trained for this. Mentally I’m scared but ready. But need to stay on my game. Emotionally going to lie I’m scared poop less of what his actions can do. But what I do know is that I am the captain of duck tape and the master crazy glue. 🤣🤣 sorry laughter is the best medicine so why let the what IF’ s stop me from enjoying the here and now. I’m going to deal with it as it comes.

Ingénue{VK} - That's amazing news. Lovely to read!

YvonneR - I am so glad you have someone you can trust. It is hard to find
So happy your son benefited from his help. People like him are rare.

I'mME - Wandarae,
So much packed into this one post. I understood every single bit of it. IYKYK. (If you know, you know)

It's hard to do a shift in life at our ages. Create new boundaries and people that know us will push and push. We just have to keep standing there, passively resisting for most..I'm not passive, and I never will be but I have gotten more comfortable with holding these new boundaries. Nobody else has .😂

We are at war, most people just do not recognize it, but that day is coming..part of this war is the way men are being demonized. I have made a point of stopping to comment on any male-bashing writing I may run into on the various platforms I pop in on..

The duck tape and crazy glue had me howling again.

You got this. ✊


Nonya