Below is something that I was moved to put on a forum discussion. My original question was what is the difference between humiliation and degradation. I was amazed by how deep and intelligent some of the responses were.
I do not know if it is considered good form to turn forum comments into blogs, but then again why not?
It is a terrible thing to confess but I started out as one of those people who see BDSM as an easy way to get laid. Infect it is a deep and complex world of emotions and interactions. I am always amazed at what I learn from people on this site. Thanks all.
However I think you will agree that both people - the degradee / humileatee and the degrader / humileater - need to be ready and to. . . Maybe genuinely care about the other person. Otherwise it could go horribly wrong.