How far are you willing to go? This question is asked often and I'm not just referring to sex here. Often it's a question one might use to find out how willing a person might go with you sexually. I'm referring to how far are you willing to go to show someone you care? How far are you willing to how show your respect, appreciation and love. Do you feel it's important to go out of your way to show others kindness? I think these questions are important for us to ask ourselves about every relationship we might be in. May it be our families, our lover/s, our friends. Then how far is too far? Do you see the people you go out of your way for reciprocating the kindness? Do you tell your partner you love them and don't hear it back? Do you tell your partner you love them all of the time and yet they never say it to you out of no where? Do you show affection to your partner and they don't seem to know how or want to return it?
Let's go to the subject of boundaries. If you aren't feeling appreciated and you feel you are always the person who puts forth effort in your relationships... It's probably time to look at your relationships. What do you want from them? Is your effort alone enough for you? Do they tell you they care but can't seem to find a way to show it or the time to? If you want to stay in a relationship with someone you feel is respecting the relationship, maybe...perhaps...it's time to set some boundaries. Boundaries are basically limits we don't allow people to cross. They are important in all aspects of life and even in healthy relationships. But in ones where you aren't feeling appreciated... They are very very important. In these situations we must take a step back. Learn how to say no, give space (both physical and emotional), respect the privacy of others. Maybe even distance ourselves and evaluate is this really a relationship we want to be in.
Hope I have given folks some things to think about. These things weren't always clear for me and I still struggle with them sometimes.
How far are you willing to go folks?
Feel free to tell me what you think.
-Ds
