Under “limits” on my profile it says “With the right owner, you don’t need any. I trust him completely.”
What does that mean? Does it mean that Sir can do anything and everything to me, without limitation, and I won’t end our dynamic?
No. It means that he has taken the time to get to know me. To really know me; inside and out; mind, body, and soul. He’s talked to me about my likes and dislikes, he watches my body’s responses and physical reactions closely, and he respects the sanctity of a safe word – always reminding me that it’s there to be used freely at any time. I don’t need to give him a list of things I won’t allow or that I’m not agreeable to trying. I trust that he will take what he’s learned from me and about me and use that knowledge to bring us both pleasure. Sometimes he pushes me outside of my comfort zone, but only when he knows that when I get to the other side of that barrier, I’ll be grateful that he took me there.
So being without limits, for me, doesn’t mean that I’d willingly walk over the edge of a cliff or jump in front of a bus. It doesn’t mean that I’d stand by timidly while I was cheated on, lied to, and abused. It doesn’t mean that I’m naive enough to think I’ve tried every kinky thing and have decided that I like it all. It simply means that I am owned by a Dominant who I know wants only to bring me to new heights, to break me down in ways that he is fully confident that he can put me back to together. It means that I trust him and his instincts more than I trust my own.