Your worth is not tied to how your body appears or conforms to societal standards...
For some that have lived a lifetime of psychological, verbal and physical abuse, where their self confidence has been battered and shattered by the toxic actions of those in their lives, or those who they have encountered, the concept of body positivity can be almost impossible to imagine or vision, far less achieve. Especially in the early stages of recovery and rediscovery of their beautiful selves.
A favourite of narcissistic humans, once they have captured and entrapped their victim and ensnared them into a relationship, is to psychologically condition their chosen victim into thinking no one will ever accept them, like them or love them, because of their alleged, and often non existent, faults including body shape, size, or image. This is the master key move of a narcissist. The human they do this to ends up believing no one else will ever want them, so they resign themselves to a life of accepting that abusive and toxic behaviour, out of fear of being alone.
The result of that treatment is a world of hurt, self denigration, self doubt and crippling anxiety for the human that has suffered that heinous psychological warfare. One of the few things that will change that humans post narcissist war PTSD is unconditional acceptance, patience, caring and love for that human. However no matter how much you lift a person up who has been abused in the ways described above, for some, getting to that point of body positivity can be a real struggle, and for some, just simply improbable or impossible.
No fault of their own. Habit has simply been hammered in so hard, that self denigration for some becomes the go to safe blanket of hell they become use to. For those that struggle with body positivity when they first enter my world, and who cannot grasp the concept of body positivity because of disconnection with themselves, I introduce the concept of body neutrality to them as the first step.
Body neutrality is a concept that shifts the focus away from the traditional narratives of body positivity or body negativity. Instead of promoting a constant state of self-love or body admiration, body neutrality encourages a more balanced and pragmatic relationship with one’s body. The idea is to appreciate the body for what it can do, rather than how it looks, and to reduce the emphasis on physical appearance altogether.
In practical terms, body neutrality means accepting your body as it is, without feeling the need to celebrate or condemn it. It’s about recognising that your worth is not tied to how your body appears or conforms to societal standards. This approach can be particularly liberating because it allows individuals to move away from the pressures of always having to love their bodies, which can be unrealistic for many, especially those struggling with body image issues.
Instead, body neutrality focuses on functional aspects, such as being grateful for what your body can do. Whether it’s walking, breathing, or simply existing. To do so without obsessing over its shape, size, or perceived imperfections. This mindset can create a more sustainable and less stressful way to live, where the body is seen as a vehicle for life experiences rather than a source of self-worth or identity.
Ultimately, body neutrality offers a middle ground, where people can disengage from the often overwhelming focus on appearance and instead cultivate a sense of peace and acceptance with their bodies, recognising that how one looks is just one small part of who they are.
Being a Dominant, is more than being a decent human being or a human that barks orders, or getting a submissive to kneel and provide sexual pleasures. Being a Dominant is about connection with another human that wants to trust in you. It’s about the genuine care of another human, or other humans in your world, and allowing them to find freedom from the demons that they have battled their entire lives.
Being a Dominant requires the deliberate act of choosing to take responsibility for another human being, encompassing their mental, physical, and psychosocial well-being. It also involves the selfless commitment to sacrifice your own needs, consistently placing the needs of another above your own.
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