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This year has been challenging. Heartbreak, tears, change, moving, smiles, laughter, finding myself, breaking down my own wall that has hidden the sub so I can finally become who I’ve always known I was supposed to be with zero fucks to give. But yet it has been the scariest and most freeing thing ever. I’ve met some awesome people and some not so awesome. I tried so hard to find a Dom at first that I only became disappointed...I put a lot of pressure on myself. So I then decided not to go searching. Sit back and go into it with a mentality like I was just making friends. And that’s exactly what I’ve done. It’s amazing. There’s a ton of amazing people on here and I’ve had the best conversations. I learned that meeting people is fun and without trying maybe while making friends I’ll end up chatting with someone I have a spark with. Only time will tell. I’m no longer in a hurry. ?
4 years ago. April 19, 2020 at 5:13 AM

Does anyone have any advice on how I could explain my needs outside of the bedroom? He’s very open minded and has the sex part down. I just don’t know the right way to explain how to Dominate me outside of sex. Thanks 

SSG{ENM-TLP} - My suggestion to you would be for you to show him. Begin taking a natural submissive stance. He will notice as you are consistent. I personally don't believe that manufactured domination will last. If he's dominant, he will naturally respond to you. Your submission will result in more domination from him which will call out more submission from you. If you need more in the way of structure, then that perhaps could be a discussion. That is where this community could be really helpful.
4 years ago
StarEyedsub​(sub female) - Thank you for your advice. He is dominant... I just don’t think either of us know where to begin. Lol.. amateurs.
4 years ago
MasterDoc​(dom male){You may we} - Have someone more experienced than the two of you explain to him and you more about what it takes and requires from the both of you to accomplish effectively. Then build on that. You're welcome to ask me anything and so is he, my ways may not he the way you wanna do it but you could get an idea and build from it.
4 years ago
WholesomeWhore​(switch female){SwellDaddy} - If you are struggling to communicate your wants, maybe you could point him in the direction of some literature? There are lots of posts on this site for example that detail the non-sexual side of D/s relationships well, if the problem is that you find it hard to properly articulate your needs that is, otherwise I'd say just be blunt and forthright - Wishing you the best of luck! 😘
4 years ago

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