Do you know the origin of the rule of thumb? It’s actually quite simple.
It’s a process that can easily be derived from learning.
I don’t know a better rule that fits the context of growing in the culture that is bdsm.
We all learn in various ways: some are hands on, some are book learners, some need a verbally spoken lesson, others only learn from their mistakes.
Its important to tell your sub or Dom how you learn, what best works for you. Example: Breath play, I’m a very ‘hands on’ person. I wouldn’t be able to just listen to someone’s instructions on how to do it. I’d need to have a submissive that can give me signs that it’s too much or not enough.
That’s just ONE example of how I think “the rule of thumb” applies to me. There are many others , but I think I’d focus on that.
Curious, who in the class knows the origin of the rule of thumb?
What is your perfect way of instruction? How do you learn in the lifestyle?
Stay classy, Sam Diego.