My mentor and I have this saying, it’s not all sunshine and rainbows.
Lots of people assume that if it’s “right” it will show in the fact that the submissive is always happy.
My bun had a rough day, finding out her relationship partner she chose a while ago was definitely not compatible. She feels gross, she feels hopeless, she feels a burden.
I gave her advice, and told her “get out” of the bad relationship she was in. She’s scared he might grow violent , my poor bun....
Its important through the good days , and the bad, to be there to support your submissive. bun is my responsibility and as such I take all of her feelings into account.
We had a talk about how a submissive at any time can ask to be released, and discussed the reasons why she might leave. The reasons why I might drop her. This thankfully happened the night before her bad day...
It’s not all sunshine and rainbows.
